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Suggest Remedy For Violent Fights And Mutual Abuse In A Relationship
hi
I just don't know what to do with my boyfriend anymore,
we had a fight today and he called me a slut like he usually does when we fight. asked me what my parnets would think of me if they knew what kind of a slut I am. he only calls me this because I have been with a few more people that him and he can't handle it. Then he pushed me on the bed and held me down. when he let me up i punched him in the back. he kept shouting at me I was a dirty slut and bringing my parents into it. I was roaring crying and he wouldn't stop then he came chansing me back into the room and i was terrified so i punched him in the nose, he pinned me down on the bed kept puttin him hand over my mouth and nose and would let me breath, he did this about five times. then he went to get a pillow to over my head i begged him not to. then he put his hand over my mouth again and pulled his fist back to punch me. he told me he was goin to kill me. then he stopped and a while later came back in to say he was sorry. i wouldn't accept his apology so now he is in bad form again and is makin me sleep in the spare room after he sayin earlier he would. this is not the first time he has been like this. he went to a doc a few months ago and told him he has an anger problem. he came out crying and promised he would change and said how sorry he was but still has not taken any of the doctors advice. he keeps promising me he will go see someone and won't. i love him and don't want to leave him. what will i do ?? please help
I just don't know what to do with my boyfriend anymore,
we had a fight today and he called me a slut like he usually does when we fight. asked me what my parnets would think of me if they knew what kind of a slut I am. he only calls me this because I have been with a few more people that him and he can't handle it. Then he pushed me on the bed and held me down. when he let me up i punched him in the back. he kept shouting at me I was a dirty slut and bringing my parents into it. I was roaring crying and he wouldn't stop then he came chansing me back into the room and i was terrified so i punched him in the nose, he pinned me down on the bed kept puttin him hand over my mouth and nose and would let me breath, he did this about five times. then he went to get a pillow to over my head i begged him not to. then he put his hand over my mouth again and pulled his fist back to punch me. he told me he was goin to kill me. then he stopped and a while later came back in to say he was sorry. i wouldn't accept his apology so now he is in bad form again and is makin me sleep in the spare room after he sayin earlier he would. this is not the first time he has been like this. he went to a doc a few months ago and told him he has an anger problem. he came out crying and promised he would change and said how sorry he was but still has not taken any of the doctors advice. he keeps promising me he will go see someone and won't. i love him and don't want to leave him. what will i do ?? please help
Tue, 16 Sep 2014
Unfortunately, you can do nothing to change him. Anger problems are serious and only he can take the steps to treat it. You can't make him. His behavior is typical of dangerous physical abusers. They will beat you up, then be really apologetic and loving, then shortly thereafter beat you up again. They keep saying they will get help and never do. Then they turn around and find some excuse to beat you up again. This person has already threatened to kill you and even tried to do it. There will come a time where his anger will be so overwhelming he won't be able to control it until it's too late. Your best option is to get out of this relationship immediately and get a restraining order on him. These are the type of men you hear about eventually killing their spouse or girlfriend. Please don't be a victim. If he truly loved you, how could he treat you like this? Get some counseling for yourself as well. This will give you the strength and support to get out of this abusive relationship. You deserve better than this. Hope this helps.
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