When Iam with my wife on bed I dont get excited easily . I am not sexually aroused easily and even the penal erection is not immediate . Even if there is erection then I have early orgasm or ejaculation which doesnt help in sex . Due to this Iam ashamed of taking off clothes and always afraid that what will happen if I take off clothes and there is no erection then it would be a insult infront of my wife and i cannot do sex with her . She is always waiting for me to initiate for the sex but Iam always afraid to expose my penis because I have a fobia that what will happen if there is no erection . How will i explain her . I have noticed that when she plays with my body then only my penis is erected and I feel confident but when I play with her body then I dont feel so much erection . I dont know how to handle this situation . If I have no proper erection then how would I do sex . PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ....HELP ME OTHERWISE I WILL FEEL ALONE AND HELPLESS which will lead to breakup. I am not sure what is the problem with me but I feel that my sex power has gone down . I started masterbating since I was in Fifth class and did a lot of masterbating till now so I feel that this might be the reason for my low sex power . WHAT SHOULD I DO . I AM NOW GOING INTO DEPRESSION and have lost the charm of living Life . Sometimes I feel like taking Pils or Viagra to help me in doing sex . Please advise if this is correct ?? Do they have side effects .