My partner/husband has been having an affair for the past 2 years but has come back to me now for the fourth time. He has had a major mid life crises , thought the grass was greener elsewhere but says he cannot bear to leave me or not see my again (my ultimatum , we do not have children and I have divorced him) after 34 years. My problem is how to try and help him as he is torn, anxious and stressed, not sleeping and loss of appetite. We have been seeing counsellor together for the past year and now I don t know what else I can do to help him, any advice greatly appreciated