Hi there Anna. Relax..at the outset, you can talk to any of us on this portal. As for being discreet & personal, you may speak to any of us you feel comfortable with on a private forum by requesting for us in person using the premium 'ask a doctor' button & someone from the healthcaremagic staff will guide you if you so desire. As for your current predicament, it does appear that you and your partner have contracted a 'viral' infection most likely from some common cold virus
..or some form of infectious mononucleosis
etc ...all eminently treatable & should resolve with the appropriate antibiotics (for secondary bacterial infection). You may want to take an antibiotic like metronidazole
to cover for any gram negative organisms seeded vis-a-vis anal intercourse & then oral sex
. However, i do advise caution & protection in the future as you may not be as lucky the next time around. Do take care & Dont worry about being lonely or having no-one to confide in...that's what we docs are here for..do consult a local GP or since you say you are in a 'foreign' country, then you can pick on us instead . Cheers & do hope have answered your queries. Dr Praveen Rodrigues MD Dermatologist
& Venereologist, Vikram Hospital, Bangalore, India.