Hello, I would be happy to help you with your question.
I am sorry about what you are going through - this sounds miserable. This might be as simple as a terrible, chronic yeast infection OR something called lichen sclerosis
. The latter problem is poorly understood, but involves red, itchy skin that leads to scratching that actually perpetuates the problem. This can be treated with steroid
cream, but you MUST go in for an exam to determine exactly what is going on.
I hope that this helps and good luck!