i read your problem .i think i have a solutiin.sex is mind
activity.first of all try to get back your husband back in your life.
make him remember all the good memories when u wrre together.
appologise to him since you stop him during srx and promise
him you want do it again.
for you i wpuld advice you use 2%xylocaine
this will relieve you from pain and you want stop him
from penetration.seduce him with sexual activity.
watch porn movies together beforevmaking love.
dont think toi much while having sex.just express your love
for him and you feel the same.touch your husband thighs
with full affection this will excite him.
wear sexy nightdresses seduce your hubby spend private
time with him make him fall in love with you again.
all the best