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Man with h/o gay relationship facing premature ejaculation. No Erectile dysfunction. Highly excited about sex. Wants to marry. Remedy?

Doctor My name is Amjad and i have premature ejaculation problem. I had gay relationships with few of my friends from the age of 9 and now i am 42 years old and i have this issue of PE from the age of 16 or 17. can it be fixed now because every time i had sex with my gay friends had this problem. I am unmarried and now want to get married. Please provide me good detailed reply and guide me whom i should visit for this issue. One more thing i want ot mention that i dont have errectile issue rather i got errection very quickly and i got excited too much so much at times i started shivering with joy and excitement when ever i got chance of having sex.
Asked On : Sat, 30 Mar 2013
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General Surgeon 's  Response
Hello and welcome to HCM
You seem to be suffering from premature ejaculation. The problem is very common and is mainly due improper sexual education and training.
There are many ways to gain control over your ejaculation:
In most person premature ejaculation is associated with stress and anxiety. In that case daily relaxation and deep breathing exercise will help.
Practicing Kegel exercises help to control ejaculation. Kegel exercises are done as follows:‎- The muscles to be exercised are the pelvic muscles. These can be felt by purposely ‎stopping the flow of urine in midstream and starting again. The muscles that squeeze the ‎urethra and anus are the ones involved.‎ Remembering what it felt like to control these muscles during urination, try to contract ‎them when not urinating. Repeat this exercise 10-15 times in one session. If you practice Kegel's exercise regularly you will find increase in your ejaculation time.
You can try some foreplay before going for sex and desensitization to help you gain erection and then do start and stop technique i.e the moment you feel you are ejaculating you stop all stimiulus and start deep breathing .
If you are too stressed you might consult a sexologist who can counsel you and help you deal with the situation in a better way.
Hope I have answered all your Queries.
Wish you good luck and good health.
Answered: Sun, 31 Mar 2013
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General & Family Physician Dr. S. Jegadeesan's  Response
Hi,
Your age is 42. You had gay relationship with few of your friends from the age of 9.
You don't have erectile dysfunction. Your problem is pre-Mature ejaculation.
You did not mention whether you had relation with opposite sex, if had how was your erection and ejaculation.
Gay relationship can be compared with having sex with call girls - In both the the cases Pre-Mature ejaculation is not taken into account.
Pre-mature ejaculation can be rectified easily by practice - thr'o understanding sex.
In married life her satisfaction is more important. You must know the technique of making her to get orgasm before you get. If needed consult a sexologist.
Before that understand your sex. Analyze whether you are erectile in having relation with opposite sex. Avoid to have gay partners totally.
As you don't have erectile dysfunction I think it is not too late to correct yourself.
Advice: After correcting everything if you get married, don't reveal your gay relations to your better half
Best wishes
Answered: Sat, 30 Mar 2013
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