A lump above ear which is soft could be a sebaceous cyst
There is no treatment other than surgical removal.
You can get done a Ultrasonography
or Fine needle aspiration cytology to know what it is .
If you are so very afraid of surgical removal then you can get it aspirated and so that it goes off once, but there are high chances (if its a cyst) that it will come back .
surgery will give you a complete removal.
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