Hi, please help me! I think my boyfriend is suffering from severe hypercondria. We ve been together for two years and in this time he has never been free of any health symptoms, he visits the doctor every couple of weeks and in some periods once a week. Since we met he has complained of his stomach not feeling normal some times pain, he is very sure there is a tumour growing inside he has undergone series of blood tests with normal results, he has had x rays and ultra sounds with normal results and is now on a waiting list for a camera viewing through both ends. Another very common complaint is a tighness in his chest which makes it very hard for him to breath . For a period of about 6 months he complained of a sore back and regularlly recieved physio work then one day his back was good again. For a short period of time he had an injured shoulder had a test done that showed some fluid in the joint but nothing futher has been done and the complaints have stopped. He now complains of sleep problems he struggles to fall asleep every night and thinks he has sleep apnoea which he is on a waiting list to have tests done. There has always been health issues with him and i honestly believe he is a healthy person and alot of this is happening in his head , he is 27 about 190cm tall and weighs 85kg he excercises about 4 times a week and eats healthy, once he is asleep at night he sleeps solidly. Every day he says he feels crap, tired, and his body aches hes grumpy and anxious often. He s very insecure and paranoid and on a daily basis seeks reassurance from myself over a wide range of things. I know of two separate occasions in the last two years where he has inflicted pain to himself. He often says he knows he wont live a long life and that he has something wrong with him that is either not discovered yet or his doctor just hasnt found yet. From what i believe he s been taking a very low dose anti depressants for the last two years because he was always feeling sad, his doctor wanted to change them and has been weaning him off them he complains now of the withdrawl symptoms of a weird feeling in his head. im assuming the doc s decision would be because my boyfriend probably thinks they have done nothing he says he s not going to take any others now this is a sensitive subject we dont really discuss. My impression of him is he s a very negative person i love him dearly this has been very difficult to learn to cope and deal with but i need help now i cannot imagine the rest of my life with him this way. Ive tried many of things to help him. I try talking to him when he vents to me ive tried to convience him that he needs to change his way of thinking and think positively i remind him often that its all in the power of the mind. Ive suggested that he see a different doctor or a phycologist and that i believe he is sick and have told him i have researched hypercondriacs and that it is an illness and can be treated he doesnt agree with me. Ive tried burning lavender oil on a daily basis played relaxing sounds at bed time and the biggest thing of all ive ignored and not taken to heart his irrational behaviour which has kept us together and also have been so supportive. Dont get me wrong he can be good company, have fun and values and enjoys time with his mates. Is he suffering from hypercondria? And please any suggetsions on how can i help him?