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Is it safe to have sex in pregnancy?

Hi Doctor, I am 32 years old now. I got married on my 29 years (Apr-2010), I was with my wife about 2 months and then I came to abroad, again I went for her delivery (Dec 2010) and then again I back to abroad, then again I went to home by May 2011, and then I got her to abroad by June 11 and then she went back to home afte three months, again I got her back with me by Feb 2012 and she was with me till end of Dec 2012. Now she went to our home. Most of all I got her here with me to avoid the problems with my wife and my family, always she used to complain about my parents and sisters, as we are still joined family, I am the elder one in my family, I have two brothers and one sister, my two brothers are out of my home as they are working, only my mom, dad and my sister in my home. But still I used to get compalints from my mom about her, and from her about my mom, dad and my sister, I used to manage any how, and I got her with me, I would like to tell about her family, as she is younger on her family, she had a elder sister and brother. Sister the first, she got married and she had a boy, after few years she s husband got suicide , and then she got married her relation after few years and now she have more two boys now. She is always used to stay with her mom home only, She will go for her husband home for some days only, also her dad have arranged his visa to get a work in abroad and both are together working now. Since my marriage, She used to ask always like to stay with her mom home only which I and my family never like. I used to get always problem with her about stay. Those issues has forced me to get her with me, but still she is went to my home last week, and she wants to go to her home and she used to complain again about my family and her stay with my home. Two days before she has went to her mom home, after that she is complaining about my family, and today she has compalined about me that I am not full filling her sexual exceptation. All of her friends amd relatives told that they are having sex atleast 5 times a day, but even when we get married we used to had sex atleast twice a day only. Also now she is 5 month pregnant, I got my first child in Dec 2010 with cesarian, and after that we come to know she have insisnial hernia , so that we are forced as per doctor advice for another child. Now she is compaling that i am not doing 5 times sex with her as her friends told, I used to sex with her since 2011 weekly four or five times, and I used to foreplay her first and I used to sex with her untill she gets climax. Now she is compalining today like that, that i was not satisfied her sexucal satisfaction, After she got pregnant, I used to sex with her weekly once only, due to her pregnancy and her vomiting and her leg pains. I asked her you have all these and so that i didn t do, but she says it is not a matter for me, you should have approach me to have sex, I never ignore when you approach like that. In other she never used to foreplay with me, and I used to do always. and now she is complaining that I am not good in sex. In other after she got delivered, she used to say weekly twice or thrice that she is having leg paind, and twice in a week she is having head ache, In this case, I used to have sex with her, when she is all right. But this is all now against for me, that she wants sex for a days atleast five time, and she is asking me that do you have any sexual problems like that, as she s all friends and relatives told that all of them having sex atleast 5 times per day. And now I told her that I have no probs, due to the above said reasons only I did like that, and now she is asking me to comeback home and to prove it. I am ready to do that, but now I cannot get leave. Kindly advice, whether all of them have capable to do sex 5 times per day? And what kind of advice for me and for my wife to run our life smoothly, and still I have an doubt that she is telling this compalint against me to let her continue stay with her mom and sister? Even I have told her if you wish you may get a new married life, for that she is crying, and she is telling that she got nothing enjoyment in her married life... Kindly Advice for me and my wife... What to do for further... Thanks
Asked On : Fri, 18 Jan 2013
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Psychologist 's  Response
Dec 2015
Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns

Your asssumption is true. It is not good to indulge in sexual activity during the first and last three months of pregnancy. also indulging in sexual activity more than twice a day consistently is proved to be harmful mentally and physically. Also you should consider the health of partner.

You and your wife should consult a sex counsellor or family counselor as early as possible and find a solution for your family problem. Sex is not everything, but family and children are. am I correct?
Good luck.
Answered: Thu, 18 Jul 2013
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