Hallow Dear, As you have very rightly mentioned, you have to win over the apprehension of ?pain due to intercourse. If you follow these instruction, it might help you: 1. Give positive strokes to your mind that sex is not a painful experience; it is the most pleasant experience in life. 2. During intercourse, be at ease and demand whenever and whatever you want. 3. Dry handling of the private parts is always painful or discomforting. Even use of water is helpful. Avoid oil or soap. 4. Do not ask him to or let him insert his penis till you start having copious vaginal discharge. 5. Spend sufficient time in body play. Every day, the sensual points on woman s body go on shifting. So you may demand the play at particular organ. 6. Use lubricant before insertion. This will ease the penile entry into the vagina. Oil based lubricants are harmful to women s genital organs. Use only water based lubricants. Vaginal jellies available with the chemists are very good for this purpose. 7. At the time of penile insertion, open your mouth wide and take deep breaths by mouth. This will overcome the resistance at vagina. If you discuss your problem in details with me, I will definitely help you out from this sexual hoodoo. For that, you may ask me Direct question. Dr. Nishikant Shrotri