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How To Deal With Aspergers S Syndrome?

Well I have a long history of depression. And I have a lot of years when I have been stable and happy and seeing my doctor regularly. I have moved and do see him as often. My lows are related to my beautiful 20 year old daughter that is living with a looser. She went NAU Fall of 2012 and her GPA was 4.0. She passed the Kaplan and should have started Nursing school by now. Her looser boyfriend is a nice boy that loves to play video games and hang out with his friends. My daughter pays for all the groceries, works, and is taking online classes to become a MTS. Her room were they live with the boyfriends father and father s girlfriend is a mess. My daughter is also expected to clean and cook and take care all responsibilities. My husband and I want to know what we did wrong. We have a beautiful, clean, and a home where she is welcomed. Why would a young woman want to support a looser? I feel that she has been brain washed, manipulated, and because of her Aspergers s Syndrome she is unable to see that she does not have to put up with this. As parents how can we get our 20 year old daughter back on track to get a education.
Thu, 5 Jun 2014
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Your daughter seems to be very emotionally attached to your boyfriend. So even though he does not have many positive characteristics , she puts up with him and his family.
I understand your concerns of being a mother. Its difficult to see your child make a mistake. Rather than bluntly asking her to come and stay with you , try to understand why she's staying with him despite all the work she is made to do. Be her support and not her critique.

She's an adult and the more you'll try to impose your ideas on her , she'll deviate from you. Even though , she would know its wrong and unstable.

A mother-daughter relationship can be made stronger by spending time and giving each other time. You can probably try this by meeting her weekly and then gradually almost daily.


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Do let me know about your progress.


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How To Deal With Aspergers S Syndrome?

Your daughter seems to be very emotionally attached to your boyfriend. So even though he does not have many positive characteristics , she puts up with him and his family. I understand your concerns of being a mother. Its difficult to see your child make a mistake. Rather than bluntly asking her to come and stay with you , try to understand why she s staying with him despite all the work she is made to do. Be her support and not her critique. She s an adult and the more you ll try to impose your ideas on her , she ll deviate from you. Even though , she would know its wrong and unstable. A mother-daughter relationship can be made stronger by spending time and giving each other time. You can probably try this by meeting her weekly and then gradually almost daily. I hope this was helpful. Do let me know about your progress. Thank you.