There are on simple or magic answers. What you are actually talking about is coping with grief. It is important to realize that acknowledging the grief promotes the healing process. Time and support help the grieving process, allowing an opportunity to appropriately mourn this loss. Guidelines that may help resolve grief: Allow time to experience thoughts and feelings openly to self. Acknowledge and accept all feelings, both positive and negative. Use a journal to document the healing process. Confide in a trusted individual; tell the story of the loss. Express feelings openly. Crying offers a release. Identify any unfinished business and try to come to a resolution. Bereavement groups provide an opportunity to share grief with others who have experienced similar loss. If the healing process becomes too overwhelming, seek professional help. These links may help you. Take care.