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How Can One Tackle Abusive And Hurtful Memories In A Distressing Life?

Hi my name is Donna and I'm 36 years old. I have had a lot of abuse in my childhood mental physical and sexual. As a child my parents divorced and I was 8 my mom worked and partied while I raised the my brother and sister I'm the oldest her. She used to have a different man ever bite and I was sexual abused a lot and when I would try and tell her I would get beat and be told I was ruinin her life and how sorry I was and how I would never amount to nothing well I raised her kids till they were grown and on their own . Got married had 2 kids of my own and raised them very well. But just recently my husband left me for another women left me with all bills I have no job cause I was in a car accident broke my back and neck he makes 90 dollars an hour I had to move back to my home town which I left 17 years ago and swore I would never come back but situations put me back. Well I found my first love and we now live together thank god for him cause he gave me a place to live and gave me a lil hope well my last son just left home and moved in with his g/f . Oh yea I forgot to mention my mom is bad on drugs has been as long as I can remember and my dad well we have no relationship. I have had a lot of memories that I pushed back coming out and it is driving me crazy I been in the bed for 3 days my mom calls when she wants money r to tell me how stupid I am for letting my husband go when he the one left me. My sons r grown and gone and they so wrapped up in their life they hardly call me. The abuse memories r bothering me a lot and I want answers that I'm never goin to get I want to know what I did so bad to deserve the way my mother treated me I want to know why she let her one nite stands rape me and I want to know why still to this day she don't have anything to do with me and why she never acknowledged I had kids. My brother and sister and my sisters 3 kids live with her now and she is good to all them but, me she hates and I don't know why! I have ask didn't do any good. I'm feeling abandoned alone depressed worthless and I just want me back I'm a happy bubbly fun to be around active person that caint seem to fight this off now I stay in the bed and cry can u please help me
Tue, 28 Apr 2015
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Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns

I went through your details. I understand your emotions and problems. i would like to provide you some insight. There could be many incidents in your past life. Some positive and some negative. Positive episodes teach us positive lessons. Negative lessons also teach positive lessons. There are nothing called negative lessons. Therefore, why do you want to think about negative incidents and worry yourself when you can be proud of your positive lessons. Those positive lessons are your assess. Ascertain your lessons and your past abilities, learn from them and change your attitude.

If you still need my assistance in this regard, please use this link. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Please remember to describe the whole problem with full detail.

Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
Good luck.
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How Can One Tackle Abusive And Hurtful Memories In A Distressing Life?

Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I understand your emotions and problems. i would like to provide you some insight. There could be many incidents in your past life. Some positive and some negative. Positive episodes teach us positive lessons. Negative lessons also teach positive lessons. There are nothing called negative lessons. Therefore, why do you want to think about negative incidents and worry yourself when you can be proud of your positive lessons. Those positive lessons are your assess. Ascertain your lessons and your past abilities, learn from them and change your attitude. If you still need my assistance in this regard, please use this link. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Please remember to describe the whole problem with full detail. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.