You seem to have a sticky situation on your hands as regards the two partners'. I suggest you take both into confidence & tell them your symptoms & get them both tested.
For yourself, do a urine routine test first & a swab test for chlamydia & do rule it out.
It does appear that you have a UTI (urinary tract infection
) that may be 'mixed ' & not necessarily chlamydia. Do visit your dermatologist
or venereologist nearest you as this will require prescription drugs & testing for STI's & take it from there.
It may just be a friction related issue with secondary infection due to the rough sex.
In future however, do remember to practice safe sex
...not some half way in between but from the beginning.
Good Luck & Godspeed!
Dr Praveen Rodrigues MD
Dermatologist & Venereologist