Thanks for your query
OCPs are contraceptives of choice in newly married couple. But it has got some side effects as you already know.
There is one low dose OCP named ' loette' which has much less side effects.
Others like vaginal ring has to be used monthly but has the same side effects.
Condoms are safe in all respects.
IUCD should not be given in women with no baby.
Injections are also not a good option for you.
For sexual knowledge and problems , you can consult a sexologist
Hope it helps,..