Hi I am a 41 year old married woman who is faithful but my husband a I did not have sex for 6 months until 3 weeks ago he has been on those nasty pain meds methadone and oxycodone due to back injury and he says he cannot get an erection because of the meds but any way about 5 days ago I had a milky white type discharge and then yesterday on the left side of my vagina lip there is a red like bump that is very sore and today on left side of my clitorus (not to sure of spelling!) it s like the individual peices of the clit best way to explained I guess is like on your tongue the small sections that top the tongue I am not sure if you understand what I m trying to say but there are 4 of the small parts side by side are swelled with a white like ball on end and extremely painful do I have an std and maybe that s why my husband hasn t wanted to have sex because he cheated and caught something