I am sorry I am trained in CBT and dealing with self harm and personality issues but am a male. The one female psychiatrist
that I know who is trained in DBT (more suited for self harm and sexual abuse, personality issues) says it is better for a person with this type of issues to see a therapist face to face than over internet (meaning she will not be able to help :-). I know of female psychiatrists who have long and good experience in psychiatry but who do not have specific psychotherapy
training...if you want me to ask them I shall.
Sorry am not of help to you.