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What Causes Sudden Outburst Of Anger?
Question: My son aged 35yrs.Married father of two kids and doing job in mnc company.
Living with parents .Suddenly when he talks with us he looses his temper and break the articles in the house.He also get normalized after few minutes of acute anger attack.
Kindly advice us what to do.
Living with parents .Suddenly when he talks with us he looses his temper and break the articles in the house.He also get normalized after few minutes of acute anger attack.
Kindly advice us what to do.
Brief Answer:
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Detailed Answer:
Dear Mr. XXXXXXX
I can understand your concern regarding the anger outbursts of your son. Anger outbursts can be part of person's personality as well as any underlying psychological condition.
I would have liked to know a few more details regarding his condition:
>> Is it a recent change in is behavior (since how long) or he has been like this all along?
>> Are there interpersonal problems between your son and you or your wife?
>> Is he stressed about anything?
>> Does he remain sad all the time and is there any change in his daily activities?
Depending on various details, he might be suffering from underlying depression or he might have some interpersonal conflicts with someone. I would suggest that someone in the family, who can talk to him freely (may be his wife) discusses regarding his anger issues with him. Accordingly, a psychiatric consultation can be sought for detailed evaluation of the underlying problem. Depression can be managed with antidepressant medications. Otherwise, he can be started on psychotherapy sessions for controlling his anger issues. Family counseling sessions can be thought of if there are interpersonal conflicts in the family.
I do hope I was able to answer your query. Please feel free to ask any further query that you might want to.
Best wishes,
Dr. Sunil Gupta
Please see details below.
Detailed Answer:
Dear Mr. XXXXXXX
I can understand your concern regarding the anger outbursts of your son. Anger outbursts can be part of person's personality as well as any underlying psychological condition.
I would have liked to know a few more details regarding his condition:
>> Is it a recent change in is behavior (since how long) or he has been like this all along?
>> Are there interpersonal problems between your son and you or your wife?
>> Is he stressed about anything?
>> Does he remain sad all the time and is there any change in his daily activities?
Depending on various details, he might be suffering from underlying depression or he might have some interpersonal conflicts with someone. I would suggest that someone in the family, who can talk to him freely (may be his wife) discusses regarding his anger issues with him. Accordingly, a psychiatric consultation can be sought for detailed evaluation of the underlying problem. Depression can be managed with antidepressant medications. Otherwise, he can be started on psychotherapy sessions for controlling his anger issues. Family counseling sessions can be thought of if there are interpersonal conflicts in the family.
I do hope I was able to answer your query. Please feel free to ask any further query that you might want to.
Best wishes,
Dr. Sunil Gupta
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
This problem persist in from his student life.
As parents we some time tries to pressureize him on family matters like,not to sit too much on internet,care of childen,dont involve in property matters but he donot like to hear anybody and this matter hearts him a great.
He remain sad most of the time and sometimes become angry without reasons after seeing parents. He keep on blaming parents for every matter.
He has no interest in social life and try to sit alone most of the times right from his childhood.
Few years back we thought as he matures up his problem of anger might get solved with age maturity but we are surprised he still continues to do same at this age.
This problem of anger is with his loved ones only and in society he is silent and behaves normally under every condition.
As parents we some time tries to pressureize him on family matters like,not to sit too much on internet,care of childen,dont involve in property matters but he donot like to hear anybody and this matter hearts him a great.
He remain sad most of the time and sometimes become angry without reasons after seeing parents. He keep on blaming parents for every matter.
He has no interest in social life and try to sit alone most of the times right from his childhood.
Few years back we thought as he matures up his problem of anger might get solved with age maturity but we are surprised he still continues to do same at this age.
This problem of anger is with his loved ones only and in society he is silent and behaves normally under every condition.
Brief Answer:
Family therapy would be a way out.
Detailed Answer:
Dear Mr. XXXXXXX
Thanks for following up and providing more details. From what you have mentioned, it seems that there are definite interpersonal conflicts and that is leading to the anger outbursts. As you have mentioned, as parents you have at times put some pressure on him. May be he in his mind has made a negative concept about his parents and that is leading to the problems. More so, it hasn't helped that he has not talked about how he feels about the whole thing to anyone.
As I suggested in my last reply, someone has to sit down with him and talk to him about his anger outbursts. You yourself can do that. It is important that the person will have to be non-confrontational and should not pint out his mistakes to start it. It will be a slow process and will take time. You can also offer to rectify anything that he perceives is wrong and work on to improve it.
I personally feel that family therapy sessions involving your son, you and your wife would be the best way to move forward if he agrees to meet a psychiatrist at all. It will help you all to iron out the differences and get back together as a unit.
I do hope that his anger outbursts get under control soon. Please feel free to ask any further queries that you might have. In case you don't have any further query, please close the discussion and rate the answer.
Best wishes and regards,
Dr. Sunil Gupta
Family therapy would be a way out.
Detailed Answer:
Dear Mr. XXXXXXX
Thanks for following up and providing more details. From what you have mentioned, it seems that there are definite interpersonal conflicts and that is leading to the anger outbursts. As you have mentioned, as parents you have at times put some pressure on him. May be he in his mind has made a negative concept about his parents and that is leading to the problems. More so, it hasn't helped that he has not talked about how he feels about the whole thing to anyone.
As I suggested in my last reply, someone has to sit down with him and talk to him about his anger outbursts. You yourself can do that. It is important that the person will have to be non-confrontational and should not pint out his mistakes to start it. It will be a slow process and will take time. You can also offer to rectify anything that he perceives is wrong and work on to improve it.
I personally feel that family therapy sessions involving your son, you and your wife would be the best way to move forward if he agrees to meet a psychiatrist at all. It will help you all to iron out the differences and get back together as a unit.
I do hope that his anger outbursts get under control soon. Please feel free to ask any further queries that you might have. In case you don't have any further query, please close the discussion and rate the answer.
Best wishes and regards,
Dr. Sunil Gupta
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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