Question: Dr Seikhoo Bishnoi please. I am running into problems about legal stuff in regard to XXXXXXX My friend has helped me find Arizona law that could get the injunction for XXXXXXX dropped but doesn't understand that if XXXXXXX never contacted me again after the first injunction was dismissed why I contacted him again, "wasn't the friendship over?" was his comment.I didn't know how to explain that I emailed him again in February as I still had hope that he would get better and we could be together..I did that because I knew he loved me still and is very confused about what is real and what is fantasy and is very scared....I need some help as this is coming up in two weeks and the laws are written such that as he did not let me know he was going to file an injunction against me it could be just voided as though it nevet existed...I am confused and flustered and have accepted that what we had was real love but without help he is too dangerous for me to be with but it is hard trying to convince non psychiatric legal people as to the reason whey I contacted him again after the original order was dismissed. I know that XXXXXXX didn't know it was dismissed or he would have been at my house again. XXXXXXX and I both saw how much he really loved me...it is so hard to try to get across to judges and lawyers and regular friends. They just assume that he didn't contact me because he didn't love me..I maintain that he did all this while he was in psychosis and when he becomes more lucid he knows he loves me but it is not safe to be with him as he could hear voices telling him to hurt or kill me and that is why we are not together even in the injunction wasn't there..and he is so very confused he doesn't know how to email or text at times on his cell phone...that is how bad he is. I know he doesn't know what the heck is doing on and id probably driving his lawyer crazy, meanwhile so terrified of going to the hospital that he won't contact me because he knows I could just get him there..quoting the right law is important because it has to be relevant...as does quoting the right mental health law that goes with it..'reasonable in the dictionary precludes or means that you cannot be insane as "an unreasonable state of mind."however that is not he legal definition. the Law Distionary describes is as mental illness of such a severe nature that a person cannot distinguish fantasy from reality, cannot conduct his or her affairs due to psychosis and is subject to uncontrollable impulse. can you help me please? What is the best way to approach a judge with a mentally ill plaintiff so that he sees that this guy is just out there mentally and cannot cope with reality let alone legal stuff...I am doing a lot better taking care of myself and have to go to bed now but I will be up in the morning waiting for your reply...thanks. Righting all this stuff is triggering and brutal but a lot better than before..I am watching T.V. we are getting rid of stuff and getting money for it and will be leaving for Israel on Sept 1st..
I am due to renew on Today.I was on this blog and the guy does not understand that Michael's and my friendship is not OVER but derailed due to his mental illness as I was afraid of him and what he might do to me and XXXXXXX I spoke with a lawyer who said that the court might just file a permanent injunction( a lifetime one) against me so that I am never allowed to contact him again.She was under the impression that he had contacted me or approached me when I didn't want him to. I had hoped to get the injunction vacated on a technicality but need your advice as to how to proceed. I don't want a lifetime away from him so am afraid now of going to court. ...no one in the legal arena thus far has seemed to understand that XXXXXXX is unpredictable and is essentially unable to tell the real from the unreal...it is a night mare....I think I might have asked you this already but do you think he might be mentally incompetent? Only a psychiatrist examining him could tell this of course...I am on the verge of dismissing the appeal as I don't want a judgment for a permanent injunction against me to be entered so that I am never allowed to communicate with him ever again. I will tell the judge that there is no need to have any injunction as I am going to be moving to a foreign country in September.

Thanks Dr B. I was having trouble defining it and I think the best legal definition of insanity such as in schizophrenia is the one you gave that,a person cannot distinguish reality from fantasy...when I was a psychiatric social worker I worked with those that had been judged to be not responsible for the crimes they committed as they were legally insane or not responsible the way a normal person would be. Another social worker next to me worked with another psychiatric team and psychiatrist to determine if a person who was insane was competent to stand trial in other words to understand the proceedings and his or her rights under the law....the ones I worked with were competent to stand trial but were legally insane as XXXXXXX is..I am not sure if he is competent to handle his own business affairs though...he had his identity stolen three times and I have no idea how he is able to handle his money or if he might need a conservator or not but that is not the issue..I just want the injunction to be dropped....I can't really apply for XXXXXXX until this stuff is dropped or finalized though...I think that the judge is going to have to have him evaluated as in my explanation of why the injunction needs to be dropped, but its a fine line as I don't want him to be permanently legally kept away from me..

I am trying to get the order vacated or declared null and void because by law, he has to notify me that he is going to apply for the injunction and if not, then he should give a good reason to the judge as to why he did NOT notify me before he filed the injunction. The court record does not reflect that he gave me any notice nor does it state that he gave the judge he applied for it with ANY reason as to why he did not notify me that he was going to apply for the injunction. Failing that I have to make a case as to why I believe that my rights were violated in the lower court which I can do...I just do not know how to argue before a court...and am afraid...

Actually I emailed him five times but they were returned to me or so I thought...instead in his paranoia and suspiciousness he kept them to read in a spam folder most likely...but I had no knowledge of this. On my end it appeared as MAILER DAIMON..your message was undeliverable for the following reasons, the recipient( Michael) is only accepting emails from specific addresses that is not from mine...so how could I even know that he had received them?
Anyway the hard part is trying tomake a legal case as I am NOT licensed to practice psychiatry in Arizona..YOU could though....so I am not sure how to word anything and really stressed now as it looks like I might have broken my computer...It is hard waiting to talk to a lawyer....

But he did receive them anyway. Somehow he was able to capture them or recapture them though on my end it said that they had not been delivered. He presented them all to the first judge and there is no way that I can prove that as I have the kind of email that deletes or gets rid of emails every 30 days and they are gone on my end forever though he was able to give them all to the court. I cannot prove that he didn't get them because he DID get them. But the response I got from his end was that they were not even delivered to him which was a big lie...I only have a half an hour with this lawyer...so that's all I can spend...not sure exactly what to say.. XXXXXXX was so suspicious and yet so ambivalent that he wanted to see what I had to say so he captured them somehow, read them and gave them to the first trial court..even though my INTENT was not to harass and I am not sure but his lawyer could try to prove that my intent was to harass him despite the fact thatI told the judge in my written briefs that I was in love with him and simply did not know what was going on or why he had abandoned me so soon and suddenly after he told me how much he loved me. He never let me know that he had gotten them but I have no way of proving that...still the law says that he was supposed to let me know that he had told me he was going to file the injunction and there is no evidence that he responded to me at all ever....not since last May...

Thanks Dr B. It is so hard for me to express my feelings sometimes. I can communicate on almost any other subject but my feelings and the justification for them...It is hard for me sometimes as I am not always aware of what I am feeling and the PTSD causes that I know and I just go into flight or fight syndrome with severe adrenal and other exhaustion..It is so hard for me to go through this andhave to explain my feelings and thoughts to the court and a lawyer who is going to be there to jump on anything I say. God, it is so hard to represent yourself when you are so emotional about everything..I have gotten to the point that I have detached from XXXXXXX enough that I can walk away from him...the relationship we had is now in the past in my heart..I will always love him and am glad I had the opportunity to love someone so deeply but I am coming to the point of loving myself more and don't want anything to interfere with our move to Israel..I cry about it sometimes but am on the other side of grief more on the upswing..no longer do I think of just sleeping all day or dying...I want to live and enjoy the rest of myself in Eretz Israel..I am so excited to be going and just want to put all of this behind me. Sure I want XXXXXXX to get help but it is no longer my main focus. More than that I want to get my life back and do what I want to do with or without him...a wise Christian pastor said that it is okay if you don't want to be with XXXXXXX now, God can change all of that when he gets better but a condition of him coming back will be that he stays on medication or gets treatment of he will NEVER be allowed in my life again..I desire peace and shalom and true love and freedom from chaos more than anything...thank you...