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What Causes Delayed Ejaculation?
Question: Hi there, I have a question about ejaculation. My boyfriend and I have been having sex regularly for 6 months and he ejaculated almost every time. Recently, now exactly two weeks, he has not ejaculated once. It has me worried that something may be medically wrong, or of course he is cheating. We have been fighting a lot due to this and I have been pressuring him as to why this is occurring as it makes me wonder. He has mentioned he is stressed about making money and he has said that he used to use steroids, he would use them once a year for 16 years in a row but has not this year. He smokes marijuana daily. Are there conditions in which men can suddenly stop ejaculating?
Brief Answer:
The marijuana along with your regular fights could both cause this
Detailed Answer:
Hello ma'am and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. Yes, there are many influencing factors that can prevent a man from ejaculating, but will also have some other impacts like difficulty in getting an erection, difficulty in maintaining an erection, etc.
One of the most common causes is of course performance-anxiety, and your fights with him can seriously make that worse. Stress (as mentioned by him) is also one of the major causative factors, but I would request you to use more of a soft, gentle and seductive approach.
I recommend dressing up for him, giving him a body massage, speaking sweetly to him, avoid confrontations, and try and seduce him as much as possible making sure there is a lot of foreplay (around 90 % of the entire session should be foreplay). This foreplay gets a male very close to ejaculation, and so even with the slightest of penetration or intercourse can make him ejaculate.
This approach also helps to receive stress, but also make sure he avoids the marijuana which can influence both his judgement and also delay ejaculation; so please do help him with getting rid of this habit.
I hope you find my response both helpful and informative. Please do not hesitate to write back to me for any further clarifications, I am always here to help.
Best wishes.
The marijuana along with your regular fights could both cause this
Detailed Answer:
Hello ma'am and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. Yes, there are many influencing factors that can prevent a man from ejaculating, but will also have some other impacts like difficulty in getting an erection, difficulty in maintaining an erection, etc.
One of the most common causes is of course performance-anxiety, and your fights with him can seriously make that worse. Stress (as mentioned by him) is also one of the major causative factors, but I would request you to use more of a soft, gentle and seductive approach.
I recommend dressing up for him, giving him a body massage, speaking sweetly to him, avoid confrontations, and try and seduce him as much as possible making sure there is a lot of foreplay (around 90 % of the entire session should be foreplay). This foreplay gets a male very close to ejaculation, and so even with the slightest of penetration or intercourse can make him ejaculate.
This approach also helps to receive stress, but also make sure he avoids the marijuana which can influence both his judgement and also delay ejaculation; so please do help him with getting rid of this habit.
I hope you find my response both helpful and informative. Please do not hesitate to write back to me for any further clarifications, I am always here to help.
Best wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thank you for the response.
So medically it is possible for a man to be ejaculating and then suddenly stop? Even for such a long period of time? He does not have an issue with keeping the erection, unless we have sex for a long time and then it goes away. But usually before this 2 week dry spell he has been able to keep it going until he fully ejaculated. I just want to make sure he isn't unloading elsewhere and then not being able to with me.
So medically it is possible for a man to be ejaculating and then suddenly stop? Even for such a long period of time? He does not have an issue with keeping the erection, unless we have sex for a long time and then it goes away. But usually before this 2 week dry spell he has been able to keep it going until he fully ejaculated. I just want to make sure he isn't unloading elsewhere and then not being able to with me.
Brief Answer:
If he is able to get an erection it is not about being unfaithful ma'am
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again ma'am.
If he were unloading elsewhere, he would even find it difficult to attain the erection ma'am.
Each time a man ejaculates, the semen that he ejaculates was produced at least 70 days earlier; so if he wished to ejaculate even after unloading elsewhere he would be able to. And if he did ejaculate elsewhere, the ejaculation part would not be a problem as he has the spare stored semen to do so, the erection would be the problem.
I hope this helps clarify your doubts ma'am. Please do not hesitate to write to me anytime and about anything, I am always here to help.
Best wishes.
If he is able to get an erection it is not about being unfaithful ma'am
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again ma'am.
If he were unloading elsewhere, he would even find it difficult to attain the erection ma'am.
Each time a man ejaculates, the semen that he ejaculates was produced at least 70 days earlier; so if he wished to ejaculate even after unloading elsewhere he would be able to. And if he did ejaculate elsewhere, the ejaculation part would not be a problem as he has the spare stored semen to do so, the erection would be the problem.
I hope this helps clarify your doubts ma'am. Please do not hesitate to write to me anytime and about anything, I am always here to help.
Best wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I must seek clarification. Are you saying if he were to unload elsewhere and then try to have sex later on with me he would have issue with the erection?
He has never had issue with erection, it was only that for the past two weeks no matter how much sex we have he cannot ejaculate afterwards.
It is possible for one man to normally ejaculate then all of a sudden not to be able to at all even after daily sex?
He has never had issue with erection, it was only that for the past two weeks no matter how much sex we have he cannot ejaculate afterwards.
It is possible for one man to normally ejaculate then all of a sudden not to be able to at all even after daily sex?
Brief Answer:
I completely understand your cause for concern ma'am
Detailed Answer:
Hi ma'am.
Yes, I am saying that if he were to be unloading elsewhere, he would be experiencing issues with an erection as well. And as he has not been experiencing any issues with an erection, there must be another reason for the difficulty in ejaculating.
And yes ma'am, it is possible for a man who has been ejaculating normally to all of a sudden have issues with ejaculation no matter sex he seems to be having. Some common causes can be side effect of medications or drugs, stress, performance-anxiety, etc.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes.
I completely understand your cause for concern ma'am
Detailed Answer:
Hi ma'am.
Yes, I am saying that if he were to be unloading elsewhere, he would be experiencing issues with an erection as well. And as he has not been experiencing any issues with an erection, there must be another reason for the difficulty in ejaculating.
And yes ma'am, it is possible for a man who has been ejaculating normally to all of a sudden have issues with ejaculation no matter sex he seems to be having. Some common causes can be side effect of medications or drugs, stress, performance-anxiety, etc.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
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