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Unable to reach orgasm during sex but achieving orgasm by sex toys. What could be the problem?

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my wife has this problem that she cannot reach climax during sex but her arousal and libido is very high even before he have sexual intercourse. But when she uses her toys then she can reach orgasm in 3 min.so what could the problem be and how can we resolve it?
Posted Tue, 23 Apr 2013 in Women Sexual Problems
 
 
Answered by Dr. Jasvinder Singh 47 minutes later
Hello,
Thanks for posting your query.

If your wife is achieving orgasm by sex toys then the cause seems psychological in nature.

For the same, try the following measures:

1)     Insufficient arousal causes by less foreplay or psychological cause like stress can be treated by spending more time in foreplay which would increase the vaginal secretion. You can use water-soluble starch based lubricant such as KY Jelly.

2)     Your wife should avoid any possible irritants including harsh soaps, chemicals, deodorants etc.

3)     Talk to your partner openly about any fears or apprehensions, ask her to eat nutritious healthy food, exercise regularly and cut down on smoking or alcohol if she is taking it.

4)     Your wife may be having psychological fear and in that case spending time together and communicating with each other will help.

Hope this answers your query. If you have additional questions or follow up queries then please do not hesitate in writing to us. I will be happy to answer your queries.

Wishing you good health.



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Follow-up: Unable to reach orgasm during sex but achieving orgasm by sex toys. What could be the problem? 6 minutes later
she has said thou she would reach an orgsam when she was in control when she had one night stands thou yes but this is a relationship situation .
 
 
Answered by Dr. Jasvinder Singh 44 minutes later
Hello,

Thanks for writing back.

It can be due to poor communication with your partner, unrealistic sexual expectations, which make sex a task rather than a pleasure, negative feelings about non performance, smoking, alcohol and sometimes illicit drugs. Have a XXXXXXX discussion with your wife and if the problem persists then both of you can have a counselling session with a sexual health expert.

Hope this answers your query. If you have additional questions or follow up queries then please do not hesitate in writing to us. I will be happy to answer your queries.

Wishing you good health.
Regards.
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