Hello.

First of all, you will have to ask yourself if you get emotionally disturbed thinking about what happened in the childhood. It is not necessary that a person who has such an experience in childhood will have problems in adulthood. You may be having the current problems as a result of other reasons.

Some of the reasons that can cause loss of erection during sexual intercourse are anxiety, pressure of performing, etc. This can now be added by the pressure of getting your wife to conceive.

If your goal is to make your wife conceive, there are a lot of other options that are available. If you consult a Fertility expert, or even your family physician, you may be able to get to know the various option for conceiving. Some of those options are - taking Sildenafil tablets so that you can sustain erection and ejaculate inside, artificial insemination, etc.

It is very important that you eliminate the anxiety and the pressure of performing. If your wife says you have a problem, she is probably saying this because the intercourse is not being successful. Please take her remarks positively, and do not get emotionally hurt. Both of you need each other's support, at this stage.

You may need to check if those past memories come back to your mind while you are having intercourse. And if so, you may need to work on it, preferably with the help of a counselor or a therapist.

I hope I have answered your query. I will be glad to help more.

Take care.

Abhijeet Deshmukh, MD

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