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Unable To Control Masturbation In A Young Teenager Boy. How Can He Be Helped?

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Posted on Mon, 25 Jun 2012
Question: my son is 14 he masterbates 3-5 times daily and some days it could be 10 he is unable to control this problem how can i help him
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Answered by Dr. Ashish Mittal (39 minutes later)
Hello,
Thanks for your query.

Excessive masturbation can be seen in:
•     Sexual obsession
•     Increase libido
•     Mania

I need following information to help you better:
•     How you came to know about his excessive masturbation?
•     Is he ejaculating 3-5 times a day or having dry orgasm only.
•     How is he in studies?
•     Any other recent change in behavior?
•     Current maladaptive behaviors?
•     History of past medical and psychological problems.

Boys attain puberty at 14-15 years of age. Before that they used to have orgasm without ejaculation (dry orgasm). Masturbation 3-4 times in a week does not cause any problem. But 3-5 times in a day is certainly excessive. Usually sex education works in these cases.

Awaiting your reply to suggest you better.
Regards,

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Shanthi.E
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Follow up: Dr. Ashish Mittal (5 hours later)
Answers to Dr. Dr. XXXXXXX questions
1-How you came to know about his excessive masturbation?
He told us about it and sometimes he feels guilty
2-Is he ejaculating 3-5 times a day or having dry orgasm only.
He says he ejaculate 3 times and the rest is dry orgasm
3-How is he in studies?
He is so far an A student but we are currently watching him closely and try not to leave him alone (not a healthy way for all) despite that he sneaks to his room to do it.
4-Any other recent change in behavior?
Like any boy his age he has high temper, and argumentive
5_Current maladaptive behaviors?
I dont think he has one
6- History of past medical and psychological problems.
Does not have any medical issues, but since KG he changed 3 school due to his Dad work relocation

Based on the above do we need to worry and take it a step further?



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Answered by Dr. Ashish Mittal (17 hours later)
Hello,
Thanks for reverting.
Considering the above information, I do not think that you need to worry presently.
I would suggest the following measures:

•     Try and explain to him that masturbation is a normal process and he should not feel guilty about it.
•     Try to get him to restrict masturbation once in a day in first week and to 3 times a week after that. Tell him to make list of factors which leads to masturbation in his case and start reducing these factors.
•     Tell him to keep a record in diary or a calendar about the number of times he is masturbating.
•     Praise him whenever he masturbates less often

I hope this information has been both informative and helpful for you. In case of any doubt, I will be available for follow ups.

Wishing him good health.
Regards,
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Unable To Control Masturbation In A Young Teenager Boy. How Can He Be Helped?

Hello,
Thanks for your query.

Excessive masturbation can be seen in:
•     Sexual obsession
•     Increase libido
•     Mania

I need following information to help you better:
•     How you came to know about his excessive masturbation?
•     Is he ejaculating 3-5 times a day or having dry orgasm only.
•     How is he in studies?
•     Any other recent change in behavior?
•     Current maladaptive behaviors?
•     History of past medical and psychological problems.

Boys attain puberty at 14-15 years of age. Before that they used to have orgasm without ejaculation (dry orgasm). Masturbation 3-4 times in a week does not cause any problem. But 3-5 times in a day is certainly excessive. Usually sex education works in these cases.

Awaiting your reply to suggest you better.
Regards,