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Unable to control anger and crying, extremely emotional. How to overcome this?

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m 25 yrs old and i cant control my anger and crying...small things can trigger my anger and i feel like breaking stuff or hitting people and when i cant do that i end up crying..its effecting my relationship..would should i do control my anger?
Posted Thu, 19 Sep 2013 in Mental Health
 
 
Answered by Dr. Susanta Padhy 7 minutes later
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Hi XXXXXXX

Thanks for the query

I will be better able to help if you describe your symptoms in detail. Kindly answer the following:

1. Was it your nature ? or off late, do you have such symptoms ?, if so for how long ?

2. Do you had / have any past unresolved or difficult life situations related to your family / career / work place etc?

3. Do you drink/ smoke?

4. Any other depressive / anxiety / other symptoms ?

5. Can you elaborate in detail that how it affecting your relationship ?

I will wait for your elaboration.

Regards
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Follow-up: Unable to control anger and crying, extremely emotional. How to overcome this? 36 minutes later
i have always been a bit short tempered as far as i remember..but off late iam most of the time angry or irritated for small or no reason. Its hard for me to let go...sometimes it takes me weeks to forget things and calm myself down. Unless i truly lash my anger out or cry for hours i cant calm myself. And i usually get angry with my close ones like my family and boyfriend and friends and i dont usually care what others think or say about me unless its extreme.

i dont think i have any unresolved life situations... I am self employed..though there are small things that i want to do like painting, travelling and designing jewellery or keep a dog. My parents are supportive in whatever i do. They love me and are very calm and understanding during my episodes of anger. My parents had a troubled relationship for a while but all is well between them. They are happy together. My father had a drinking problem earlier but now he is an occasional drinker.

I dont smoke at all but i drink rarely and responsibly while im with friends

iam i sort of loner. i dont like to talk much. Iam a bit reserved though i have many friends and i stay in touch with them and they dont see me as short tempered or reserved..to them iam a bit extrovert person. When iam with friends i enjoy their company. I dont like people to know about what iam doing in my life or what Iam feeling. I try not to expect much from others and i dont like when others expect from me.

I worry a lot about loosing my freedom after i get married. Thinking about giving up my freedom and my life style makes me really irritated and angry. When I talk about this with my boyfriend i usually loose control over my emotions and we end up fighting. I Have a reputation of being rude and angry all the time. After fighting i feel guilty about loosing my temper.
 
 
Answered by Dr. Susanta Padhy 46 minutes later
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answer is elaborative

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Thank you for an elaborated description. I will ask a few more questions to get a better insight.

Has your marriage been fixed and finalised in near future ?

How had you reacted to the situation of "period of disturbed relationship of your parents" ? And how long did it last ? What was your age during that time?

Does your boyfriend drink or had any unpleasant relationship with any other girl ?

How many siblings do you have ?

Please answer to above questions for a better ongoing discussion
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Follow-up: Unable to control anger and crying, extremely emotional. How to overcome this? 44 minutes later
my marriage has not been fixed yet but when my parents or people talk about it i get irritated thinking about the change.

i did not react in front of my parents..my father doesn't know that i know about this disturbed period..my mother disclosed it to me i just listened to her and did not react much. i talked about this with my boyfriend and after a few days i was fine with it.

my boyfriend doesn't drink and doesn't have any kind of relationship with any other girl.
We are opposite in nature. He is calm and serious in nature. He used to handle my anger calmly and patiently but now we fight more often as if he is running out of patience. We have been together for 3 years.

I have one younger sister.
 
 
Answered by Dr. Susanta Padhy 21 hours later
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Answer is elaborative

Detailed Answer:
Thank you, XXXXXXX for the clarification

I would agree with somewhere along the line of your thought that "I worry a lot about loosing my freedom after i get married. Thinking about giving up my freedom and my life style makes me really irritated and angry".

Plus, may be you are insecure (unconsciously) about the healthy relationship having witnessed the disturbed relationship of your parents. This hypothesis may not be a conclusive one, may not be true but may be a point for you to think.

Has your attention and concentration decreased, off late ?

Have you become hyperactive, in general (I am not talking of anger)

During childhood, did you have prominent "temper Tantrum" ?
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