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Question: Dear doctor,
I had consulted u regarding my stress and burden which i had taken during my son's tenth standard. He actually secured 93% in ssc board. He has proven once again his ability as a studius child.
However again i am facing one problem
Before the results itself we have joined iit advanced coaching classes. Of course as per his wish. But now he is finding it to be too tough. Idea of enrolling him was that if he studies higher leval., then other low difficulty levels such as jee mains and cet ( entrance exams for engineering) would be easy.Students in his class are also facing same problem but they are not open to express like my child.
1. How to bare this stress?
2.Really a child of above academic record can take higher burden?
3. Can we shift to the little lower levels?
4. Even my son wanted to enroll for advanced because he wanted to take a call about it.
5. I don't at all mind to shift him to lower level. But in future will he always get habituated to such a comfortable attitude??
At the same time i dont want to lose his confidence. He is afraid that he will get less marks which he had never got in school.
Pl suggest the remedy.
Regards.
Thank you.
I had consulted u regarding my stress and burden which i had taken during my son's tenth standard. He actually secured 93% in ssc board. He has proven once again his ability as a studius child.
However again i am facing one problem
Before the results itself we have joined iit advanced coaching classes. Of course as per his wish. But now he is finding it to be too tough. Idea of enrolling him was that if he studies higher leval., then other low difficulty levels such as jee mains and cet ( entrance exams for engineering) would be easy.Students in his class are also facing same problem but they are not open to express like my child.
1. How to bare this stress?
2.Really a child of above academic record can take higher burden?
3. Can we shift to the little lower levels?
4. Even my son wanted to enroll for advanced because he wanted to take a call about it.
5. I don't at all mind to shift him to lower level. But in future will he always get habituated to such a comfortable attitude??
At the same time i dont want to lose his confidence. He is afraid that he will get less marks which he had never got in school.
Pl suggest the remedy.
Regards.
Thank you.
Brief Answer:
he is able to do what ever he likes
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thank you for your query.
There are many ways to bear stress like meditation, yoga, exercise and psychotherapy and lastly if not improved with all this finally medicines are there .
Medicines are used only if severity of stress is high or it is associated with other illness.
Yes child with good academic carrier can take higher burden but initially there are stress which every one experienced and so with above method one can handle stress in positive ways.
No need to shift to lower level if your child has interest in particular course.
with certain psychological test one can find interest in particular course.
if your son wanted to enroll in advanced course you need to support him and there is no such need to worry that he will not bear the stress.
even if there is stress there are many ways by which we can handle it.
Just by fear you need not to come to lower level.
With any new course there is difficulty initially but as the time pass adjustment occur.
and with every challenges one can habituated to comfortable attitude and impact of situation will not be as high as previous.
Thank you.
Hope i solve your query regarding your son.
he is able to do what ever he likes
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thank you for your query.
There are many ways to bear stress like meditation, yoga, exercise and psychotherapy and lastly if not improved with all this finally medicines are there .
Medicines are used only if severity of stress is high or it is associated with other illness.
Yes child with good academic carrier can take higher burden but initially there are stress which every one experienced and so with above method one can handle stress in positive ways.
No need to shift to lower level if your child has interest in particular course.
with certain psychological test one can find interest in particular course.
if your son wanted to enroll in advanced course you need to support him and there is no such need to worry that he will not bear the stress.
even if there is stress there are many ways by which we can handle it.
Just by fear you need not to come to lower level.
With any new course there is difficulty initially but as the time pass adjustment occur.
and with every challenges one can habituated to comfortable attitude and impact of situation will not be as high as previous.
Thank you.
Hope i solve your query regarding your son.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vaishalee Punj
Thanks for the reply.
Dear Doctor,
Actually my son is not yet matured enough to understand what is suitable for him
Besides having the good caliber he does not understand importance of it. We have to push him for every thing , not necessarily the academics, but the activities such as reading, going to gym, etc.Pc games is his passion.
He was also not sure to adopt jee advanced course. He was confident about lower level, Jee mains.We told him that he can go ahead with it and if he cannot make it then no issue , he can study jee mains. We never forced him for anything.
What do the parents of the children who score best in the exam do?
no doubt those children are technically sound. Is it that they don't keep any option to them .Are they strict to tell the child that this particular is the only your goal.
In case of my child ,who has given many competitive exam, he had reached to one level below maximum What is the actual secret of the children in that creamy layer of marks?Mr XXXXXXX Khera in his book "You can win" say that achievers do not do any thing different. They only do the things differently. What does it mean?
Then how the capacity of every child matter? Teachers always advice us not to force the child for marks. Then how can we give him extra pressure for which he is not confident to bare it or not.
pl. answer the quarry.
Regards.
Pl suggest.
Dear Doctor,
Actually my son is not yet matured enough to understand what is suitable for him
Besides having the good caliber he does not understand importance of it. We have to push him for every thing , not necessarily the academics, but the activities such as reading, going to gym, etc.Pc games is his passion.
He was also not sure to adopt jee advanced course. He was confident about lower level, Jee mains.We told him that he can go ahead with it and if he cannot make it then no issue , he can study jee mains. We never forced him for anything.
What do the parents of the children who score best in the exam do?
no doubt those children are technically sound. Is it that they don't keep any option to them .Are they strict to tell the child that this particular is the only your goal.
In case of my child ,who has given many competitive exam, he had reached to one level below maximum What is the actual secret of the children in that creamy layer of marks?Mr XXXXXXX Khera in his book "You can win" say that achievers do not do any thing different. They only do the things differently. What does it mean?
Then how the capacity of every child matter? Teachers always advice us not to force the child for marks. Then how can we give him extra pressure for which he is not confident to bare it or not.
pl. answer the quarry.
Regards.
Pl suggest.
Brief Answer:
No need to give extra pressure for study
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thank you for reply.
Yes at this age your son might not be matured but if you do not allow him to do things alone then might be difficult for him to do things alone and might be dependent on you for every thing.
So allow him to do and just guide him or keep watch or supervise his doings and make correct or give advice if he is not doing right or if there is any problem.
with responsibility his inner strength comes out and he will do things in better way.
Parents need to support positively and also do not compare child with any one.
Also parents need to understand child's capability.
For study need to give pressure but not with negative comments but with positive attitude.
Achievers do not do any thing different but they do it differently means that those who succeed are doing the same work but with different attitude and by different methods, work is same but presentation is different .
Thank you
No need to give extra pressure for study
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thank you for reply.
Yes at this age your son might not be matured but if you do not allow him to do things alone then might be difficult for him to do things alone and might be dependent on you for every thing.
So allow him to do and just guide him or keep watch or supervise his doings and make correct or give advice if he is not doing right or if there is any problem.
with responsibility his inner strength comes out and he will do things in better way.
Parents need to support positively and also do not compare child with any one.
Also parents need to understand child's capability.
For study need to give pressure but not with negative comments but with positive attitude.
Achievers do not do any thing different but they do it differently means that those who succeed are doing the same work but with different attitude and by different methods, work is same but presentation is different .
Thank you
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Shanthi.E
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