Brief Answer:
You need to handle the stress

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.

I read your query word by word and understand your concerns.

What you are going through is excessive expectation from someone about whom you know that is husband of someone else. You might be aware that this is likely outcome of such relationships in most of the communities including XXXXXXX The things are not in control of you and the other person in relationship is more concerned with his family rather than you. You have to think in the practical way and need to move forward in life.

I am writing down few of the strategies which will be helpful for stress management. I hope this will help you in long term in managing current problem.

1. Diet: Ensure intake of adequate quantity of fiber. 2 servings of vegetable salad and 2 servings of fruits( One preferable citrus fruit). Avoid junk food and fast food especially pizza, burgers and excessive sweets

2. Ensure adequate water intake: Follow rule of 1 which i usually advise. 1 glass of water 1 hour before and 1 glass of water 1 hour after every meals will ensure adequate consumption of water . Recommended intake of water is 2 to 3 liter a day.

3. Early morning Exercise: Brisk walking for 30 minutes at a stretch preferably in garden will be very helpful. Walking is the best exercise, it also promotes release of Endorphins( naturally occurring pain killers released in brain) which causes mood elevation and generalized feeling of well being. Make it a daily habit and incorporate in your lifestyle.

4. Avoid tea/coffee/ nicotine and alcoholic beverages: If at all you want to drink something, drink fresh lime water. It is very much refreshing.

5. Start your day with a glass of Lemon water with 2 spoons of honey added. have a good breakfast.

6. Don't take work so seriously: We all have the feeling to excel in our respective fields and don't spend adequate time with our own self trying to understand our own needs.
The work pressure is high: Call it a day, take a short leave and hit out to picnic spot which you always wanted to go. Spend time with your family and friends.

7. While working take frequent regular breaks: Taking regular breaks will not waste the time, but it will definitely increase the productivity, concentration and reasoning. Take break for 5 minutes every 30 minutes.

8. Avoid late night socialization

9. Avoid starring for longer time at the computer screen or TV for longer time

10. Steam inhalation before going to sleep will be very refreshing.

11. Multivitamin and Calcium supplement.

12. Meditation and Yoga

I hope the above mentioned strategies will help you to improve your will power and reduce the stress which causing current symptoms. Option of medication will be considered if you are not able to control the things with all these steps.

If you feel more need to be done feel free to contact me. I will be happy o help you.
Thanks and Regards
Dr Ashok

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