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Question: My boyfrnd had no erection frm past 7 months too much psycological stress. we r in long distance relation ship. last we had sex in july 2016. aftr two months he left to usa fr his work. since thn he is havin erection problm. he got vry depressed. we went to doc also. bt she told him it might go fr surgry . fr erection..he got more negatv. nevr saw a doc again.we rvin long distance. i started tryin phone sex wd him. to make him gt his confidnce back. it did miracles. he gets very hard nw. bt only whn i try on phone. nt by himself. nw d problm is i made him hard on phone. bt he wasnt able to ejaculate. he is gtin depressd again. he hasnt tried sex since thn. and just nw he want to ejaculate through phone sex only. plz i need help. he wont go to doc. he wont take medicine. i told him whn he cm to me i cn mske him ejaculate.. plz i need help to understand this more.
Brief Answer:
It is in his mind
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns about the problems faced by your boyfriend.
However I do not understand why surgery was given as treatment option. I do not think any other other condition except varicocele responds to surgery when we consider erectile dysfunction.
Since he is able to have normal erections while having phone sex and all his blood investigations are normal there is high possibility that he suffers with psychological erectile dysfunction.
The condition is best treated by counselling and better understanding of the problem. I understand that you do not want to go to doctor but unfortunately a doctor having in person consultation can offer counselling and it is almost impossible to provide counselling in question answer form.
I also like to assure you that there is little role of medication in psychological ED and he is not required to take any medication.
I hope this answers you.
If you have more questions feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards.
It is in his mind
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.
I read your query and understand your concerns about the problems faced by your boyfriend.
However I do not understand why surgery was given as treatment option. I do not think any other other condition except varicocele responds to surgery when we consider erectile dysfunction.
Since he is able to have normal erections while having phone sex and all his blood investigations are normal there is high possibility that he suffers with psychological erectile dysfunction.
The condition is best treated by counselling and better understanding of the problem. I understand that you do not want to go to doctor but unfortunately a doctor having in person consultation can offer counselling and it is almost impossible to provide counselling in question answer form.
I also like to assure you that there is little role of medication in psychological ED and he is not required to take any medication.
I hope this answers you.
If you have more questions feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
i wanna knw if he cn ejaculate if he haves sex. i hav been tellin him i made him gt his erection back just by phone sex. if he cms to me i m make him cum by physical touch. . he is too stubborn. he is too emotional whn it cms to this problm.
Brief Answer:
I think YES
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.
Delayed ejaculation or retarted ejaculation most often results from stress arising from various factors. I have observed in my practice that experience with phone sex is quite different than the intimate encounter with loving partner.
I understand that he is stubborn and emotional to a great extent but does not mean that he can not ejaculate. While he comes to you try to make him comfortable and do not allow to think over too much about his sexual problem.
In my opinion his emotional nature and depressed feeling is most likely cause for his delayed or absent ejaculation.
I also think that having blow job and other forms of oral sex should be preferred during initial sexual encounters rather than penetrative sex. This is important for him to gain confidence and to achieve the level which he used to have few months back.
I hope this answers you further.
Thanks and regards.
I think YES
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.
Delayed ejaculation or retarted ejaculation most often results from stress arising from various factors. I have observed in my practice that experience with phone sex is quite different than the intimate encounter with loving partner.
I understand that he is stubborn and emotional to a great extent but does not mean that he can not ejaculate. While he comes to you try to make him comfortable and do not allow to think over too much about his sexual problem.
In my opinion his emotional nature and depressed feeling is most likely cause for his delayed or absent ejaculation.
I also think that having blow job and other forms of oral sex should be preferred during initial sexual encounters rather than penetrative sex. This is important for him to gain confidence and to achieve the level which he used to have few months back.
I hope this answers you further.
Thanks and regards.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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