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I have problem related to sex. I have not been able to do intercourse may be because my hard on its not sufficiently hard and even when it does. ... It doesn't stay for more than a minute. I have been masturbating for many years. Is it a possible reason for my problem. If yes, what could be done about it. Am I suffering from some serious ailment?
I have problem related to sex. I have not been able to do intercourse may be because my hard on its not sufficiently hard and even when it does. ... It doesn't stay for more than a minute. I have been masturbating for many years. Is it a possible reason for my problem. If yes, what could be done about it. Am I suffering from some serious ailment?
Brief Answer:
Clarify a few things
Detailed Answer:
Hi
Thanks for the query
I need to know your age, marital status, occupation , is it loss of hardness after or before discharge of semen , your habits of drug like tobacco and alcohol? These points need to beclarified Masturbation does not lead to such problems but we can find out the possible reason
Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa
Clarify a few things
Detailed Answer:
Hi
Thanks for the query
I need to know your age, marital status, occupation , is it loss of hardness after or before discharge of semen , your habits of drug like tobacco and alcohol? These points need to beclarified Masturbation does not lead to such problems but we can find out the possible reason
Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Prasad
Hello sir
I am 28 years of age and married for almost 8 months. I work for defense forces. I am an occasional drinker but have been smoking for last 3 years. Initially I had a problem that my foreskin didn't use to come back and so I got circumcision done in Nov 2014. I have been masturbating for many years, almost 10 years at the frequency of almost twice a day and I am addicted to it. Even in the company of my wife I like to masturbate. But after marriage when we tried to do sex. We couldn't do it. I get a hard on only when she rubs my penis with her hand and then when I try to insert it in her vagina it's not that hard and we are not able to do it. My wife is also a little afraid of song it for the first time because of get fear of pain. But even when we tried we couldn't do it because her vagina is very tight and when I try to push it and it doesn't find its place , after a few minutes my penis goes down and we are not able to do it in last 8 months. My hard on stays only for the duration when she is rubbing it with her hand and after she leaves it goes down within few minutes. Secondly I get hard on only when she or I myself rub it with hands and doesn't get hard my mere touches or thoughts. I love it when she masturbates me. Moreover I am able to masturbate with my own thoughts or watching porn but I am not able to do sex. Just in 8 months I get more hard while watching porn and masturbating than by doing actual sex with her. Even actual sex doesn't turn me on very much. The hardness is not much and doesn't sustain enough to do sex. I am even afraid that even if I am able to insert I won't be able to sustain and it and then probably we won't be able to have a baby ever. I also feel that my penis size is also small. What could be the possible reason for not getting sufficiently hard and not staying for more than a minute. What is the solution for it.
I am 28 years of age and married for almost 8 months. I work for defense forces. I am an occasional drinker but have been smoking for last 3 years. Initially I had a problem that my foreskin didn't use to come back and so I got circumcision done in Nov 2014. I have been masturbating for many years, almost 10 years at the frequency of almost twice a day and I am addicted to it. Even in the company of my wife I like to masturbate. But after marriage when we tried to do sex. We couldn't do it. I get a hard on only when she rubs my penis with her hand and then when I try to insert it in her vagina it's not that hard and we are not able to do it. My wife is also a little afraid of song it for the first time because of get fear of pain. But even when we tried we couldn't do it because her vagina is very tight and when I try to push it and it doesn't find its place , after a few minutes my penis goes down and we are not able to do it in last 8 months. My hard on stays only for the duration when she is rubbing it with her hand and after she leaves it goes down within few minutes. Secondly I get hard on only when she or I myself rub it with hands and doesn't get hard my mere touches or thoughts. I love it when she masturbates me. Moreover I am able to masturbate with my own thoughts or watching porn but I am not able to do sex. Just in 8 months I get more hard while watching porn and masturbating than by doing actual sex with her. Even actual sex doesn't turn me on very much. The hardness is not much and doesn't sustain enough to do sex. I am even afraid that even if I am able to insert I won't be able to sustain and it and then probably we won't be able to have a baby ever. I also feel that my penis size is also small. What could be the possible reason for not getting sufficiently hard and not staying for more than a minute. What is the solution for it.
Brief Answer:
Your wife has vaginismus
Detailed Answer:
Hi
A few points are clear. Your wife is suffering from a problem called vaginismus. It causes tight closing of vaginal opening so it becomes impossible to enter with what ever hardness. so she needs to be treated by a qualified and experienced sexologist . We do it online as well You can read more details on www.vivanhospital.com
Secondly this problem is not due to masturbation . It is probably due to the fact that you tried to have sex initially but failed. Repeated unsuccessful attempts produced fear and doubt so you are unable to get adequate hardness while trying intercourse but you are fine when watching porn where there is no pressure to perform.
Thirdly you are harming your cause by smoking because it causes ED so quit it immediately
you should first get a detailed check up for both of you. Here we take about 7-10 days to solve such cases
DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA
Your wife has vaginismus
Detailed Answer:
Hi
A few points are clear. Your wife is suffering from a problem called vaginismus. It causes tight closing of vaginal opening so it becomes impossible to enter with what ever hardness. so she needs to be treated by a qualified and experienced sexologist . We do it online as well You can read more details on www.vivanhospital.com
Secondly this problem is not due to masturbation . It is probably due to the fact that you tried to have sex initially but failed. Repeated unsuccessful attempts produced fear and doubt so you are unable to get adequate hardness while trying intercourse but you are fine when watching porn where there is no pressure to perform.
Thirdly you are harming your cause by smoking because it causes ED so quit it immediately
you should first get a detailed check up for both of you. Here we take about 7-10 days to solve such cases
DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Nagamani Ng
Hello sir
Thanks for your reply. But my problem is that the problem is not just with my wife but me also. Why I am not getting sufficiently hard and why am I not able to sustain it. I don't have any performance anxiety because I want to do sex but I am not able to do because of my hardness. my wife is a virgin so it is natural that she has a little tight vagina which is normal I believe. The problem is that why I am not able to sustain whatever hardness is there. And it is even so when I am watching porn. Moreover I am getting excited only when I get masturbated and no other move makes me excited. While watching porn still I get excited a little bit but not while doing sex. Why is it so? nowadays I don't get hard even by just watching porn. It is only when I start masturbating that I get a hardness which also stays only till the time I am rubbing my penis with hand and it doesn't stay even for a second after I leave it. What is wrong with me and what could be the solution to it?
Thanks for your reply. But my problem is that the problem is not just with my wife but me also. Why I am not getting sufficiently hard and why am I not able to sustain it. I don't have any performance anxiety because I want to do sex but I am not able to do because of my hardness. my wife is a virgin so it is natural that she has a little tight vagina which is normal I believe. The problem is that why I am not able to sustain whatever hardness is there. And it is even so when I am watching porn. Moreover I am getting excited only when I get masturbated and no other move makes me excited. While watching porn still I get excited a little bit but not while doing sex. Why is it so? nowadays I don't get hard even by just watching porn. It is only when I start masturbating that I get a hardness which also stays only till the time I am rubbing my penis with hand and it doesn't stay even for a second after I leave it. What is wrong with me and what could be the solution to it?
Brief Answer:
Try these
Detailed Answer:
H
i I am not saying that problem exists with your wife only You have problem as well In Non Consummation of marriage, problem can be with both partners I think while masturbating, you don't have to perform intercourse so no anxiety and hardness is present When trying for intercourse, you have this thought- what if I am not successful, what will she think, Can I satisfy her and so on. So you lose hardness . I suggest you take Udezire 50 mg at night with tab Paroxetine CR 12.5 mg Do not try for 2 weeks till you feel better Stop smoking and briskly walk for 30 minutes daily Pl get a prescription for the medicine from a local doctor
If you can perform, fine otherwise you have to get your wife treated
Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa
Try these
Detailed Answer:
H
i I am not saying that problem exists with your wife only You have problem as well In Non Consummation of marriage, problem can be with both partners I think while masturbating, you don't have to perform intercourse so no anxiety and hardness is present When trying for intercourse, you have this thought- what if I am not successful, what will she think, Can I satisfy her and so on. So you lose hardness . I suggest you take Udezire 50 mg at night with tab Paroxetine CR 12.5 mg Do not try for 2 weeks till you feel better Stop smoking and briskly walk for 30 minutes daily Pl get a prescription for the medicine from a local doctor
If you can perform, fine otherwise you have to get your wife treated
Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Veerisetty Shyamkumar
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