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Question: I am 27 year old boy, and got recently married. while having sex with her my penis gets tighten at the start of sex but as soon as i try to insert it , it gets loosen. this happens several times with me. But after using body lotion or condom, it gets easily inserted. But after having sex she always complains about dissatisfaction.
Kindly suggest what might be the problem.
Kindly suggest what might be the problem.
Brief Answer:
Sex is more than penetration
Detailed Answer:
Hi, thanks for writing through HCM and congratulations for marriage.
I have read your query and understood your concerns.
After marriage, initially there are some problems with sex because it is a new experience and most of the newly married couples in XXXXXXX are Virgin.
The problem you are facing may be because of your anxiety related to dissatisfaction of your partner. You may be repeatedly thinking about failures in bed. This makes you stressed and you lose your erection because these anxiety and other thoughts must be repeatedly bothering you even while sex. Here are some tips.
1. Don't go for penetration soon.
2. Spend at least 15 to 20 minutes in foreplay.
3. Explore the sensitive areas in your partner.
4. Before sex you shouldn't be fatigued due to work at job or by any other means.
5. When you engage in sexual activity, focus only on sex, nothing else should be in mind.
6. Oil massage or naked shower bath is a good initial step for making sexual activity pleasurable.
7. Foreplay should continue even during penetration.
8. Try different sex positions as per your convenience and preference.
9. Use woman on top position if you ejaculate early.
10. If do not like sex with condoms then you shall have sex without condom but you should ejaculate outside over your partner's body.
You may be ejaculating within 2 to 3 minutes and that is why she is complaining. Woman also achieve orgasm, so if she is not achieving orgasm during sex then she will always complain about dissatisfaction. Even if you ejaculate early, you can make her achieve orgasm by other means. I hope you know by what means I am talking about.
Hope This will help. Do not go for drugs, you don't need any. If you have further clarifications then I shall be happy to help.
Wish you good sexual life.
Sex is more than penetration
Detailed Answer:
Hi, thanks for writing through HCM and congratulations for marriage.
I have read your query and understood your concerns.
After marriage, initially there are some problems with sex because it is a new experience and most of the newly married couples in XXXXXXX are Virgin.
The problem you are facing may be because of your anxiety related to dissatisfaction of your partner. You may be repeatedly thinking about failures in bed. This makes you stressed and you lose your erection because these anxiety and other thoughts must be repeatedly bothering you even while sex. Here are some tips.
1. Don't go for penetration soon.
2. Spend at least 15 to 20 minutes in foreplay.
3. Explore the sensitive areas in your partner.
4. Before sex you shouldn't be fatigued due to work at job or by any other means.
5. When you engage in sexual activity, focus only on sex, nothing else should be in mind.
6. Oil massage or naked shower bath is a good initial step for making sexual activity pleasurable.
7. Foreplay should continue even during penetration.
8. Try different sex positions as per your convenience and preference.
9. Use woman on top position if you ejaculate early.
10. If do not like sex with condoms then you shall have sex without condom but you should ejaculate outside over your partner's body.
You may be ejaculating within 2 to 3 minutes and that is why she is complaining. Woman also achieve orgasm, so if she is not achieving orgasm during sex then she will always complain about dissatisfaction. Even if you ejaculate early, you can make her achieve orgasm by other means. I hope you know by what means I am talking about.
Hope This will help. Do not go for drugs, you don't need any. If you have further clarifications then I shall be happy to help.
Wish you good sexual life.
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