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Question: Hi ,
My name is XXXXXXX . Married on 31st august 2014 . Iam 32 years old . Iam facing problem in sex. Iam not able to put my XXXXXXX into her vageena . its not entering . My XXXXXXX loses the hardness the moment iam trying to put cock in her Vageena . Kindly advice what to do
My name is XXXXXXX . Married on 31st august 2014 . Iam 32 years old . Iam facing problem in sex. Iam not able to put my XXXXXXX into her vageena . its not entering . My XXXXXXX loses the hardness the moment iam trying to put cock in her Vageena . Kindly advice what to do
Brief Answer:
Need some details and suggestions below.
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I can understand how you feeling due to this problem.
Your are recently married.So it may be due to anxiety only.
Just understand physiology of sex and try to enjoy it.
As you are recently married, you can pass more time in romance and foreplay.Foreplay is the time before actual intercourse during sex in which couple does some romantic activities like removing each others clothes slowly, kissing each other on different part of body without any hurry for actual intercourse.This period depends on couple's relationship intimacy and duration of relationship.
During this time do not think about your ability to enter your penis into vagina, just go on. Also do not think about your erection. When you feel that your erection is sufficient ask your wife to guide your penis for entry in to vagina.
You try to think about romantic time , not about your erection and entry. Orgasm is for few seconds only, real enjoyment is in process to achieve it.
If by this method still you find problem, need of couple sex counselling and may be master and XXXXXXX technique.
To help you more I would like to know following from you.
"Have you any past experience of successful sexual experience?, Do you masturbate ? If yes, do you able to do successfully with orgasm? During current problem your penis become loose before ejaculation or after ejaculation? Is your wife is cooperative at sex? How is her feeling due to this problem?Have you any physical problem?, Are you taking any medicines?,What is your and your wife's education?"
I will be happy to help further.
Regards,
Dr,.Chintan Solanki.
Need some details and suggestions below.
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX,
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
I can understand how you feeling due to this problem.
Your are recently married.So it may be due to anxiety only.
Just understand physiology of sex and try to enjoy it.
As you are recently married, you can pass more time in romance and foreplay.Foreplay is the time before actual intercourse during sex in which couple does some romantic activities like removing each others clothes slowly, kissing each other on different part of body without any hurry for actual intercourse.This period depends on couple's relationship intimacy and duration of relationship.
During this time do not think about your ability to enter your penis into vagina, just go on. Also do not think about your erection. When you feel that your erection is sufficient ask your wife to guide your penis for entry in to vagina.
You try to think about romantic time , not about your erection and entry. Orgasm is for few seconds only, real enjoyment is in process to achieve it.
If by this method still you find problem, need of couple sex counselling and may be master and XXXXXXX technique.
To help you more I would like to know following from you.
"Have you any past experience of successful sexual experience?, Do you masturbate ? If yes, do you able to do successfully with orgasm? During current problem your penis become loose before ejaculation or after ejaculation? Is your wife is cooperative at sex? How is her feeling due to this problem?Have you any physical problem?, Are you taking any medicines?,What is your and your wife's education?"
I will be happy to help further.
Regards,
Dr,.Chintan Solanki.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Bhagyalaxmi Nalaparaju
Iam a Chartered Accountant and My wife is Post Graduate . I dont even touched a girl before marriage . Yes i mastuburate and it was very successful . Before ejaculation pennis become loose .pennis is tight at all times except i put it into vageena . She is very co -operative in sex . I dont have any physical problems . She has some pain while entering in sex . I had taken medicines for anxiety for last 3 years ( Nexvenla OD 100) for last three years and stopped the medicine one month before . But after that also there was no problem while Mastuburating . I feel disappointed by the time i fails in doing this . Will it be OK Sir . Please help
Can you explain jhonson Technique
As per her she tells me it all will get right soon , We can wait sometime , else can consult like that . But i fears that if this prolongs there will be some issue
Can you explain jhonson Technique
As per her she tells me it all will get right soon , We can wait sometime , else can consult like that . But i fears that if this prolongs there will be some issue
Brief Answer:
you will be ok for sure, see detail answer
Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXXX,
Thanks for follow up queries.
You both are very well educated that is a positive point. Your wife is cooperative that is also good..You can go for sex couples counseling for your problem and chance of success is high.
As penis looses before ejaculation, it is not premature ejaculation. You do not have physical problem and history of successful masturbation means there is no physical problem in sex also. As same process happened in masturbation and sex, only technique differs.
Your wife is right up to some extent that you will get right soon. You and she did not have any past sex experience and you are married just before 5 days. For both of you it is new experience and you will adjust to each other slowly and get success. Many couple gets success after months also. So no need to consult someone urgently.
You try to overcome your anxiety by thinking that your wife has no problem and she wants to wait. You try to concentrate on romance and foreplay during sex. No thinking for entering or failure. Just go on. You will succeed in sometime.
Two points to be noted.
Your wife has some pain when you enter. Why it is there that should be checked. If her hymen is still intact, she is going to have pain for one or two successful sex until it broken and she needs to understand that and you also. This can be checked by herself through finger.
Another point is you were taking desvenlafaxine for anxiety. Means you are prone to anxiety. Same anxiety may be bothering you during sex, if it is so that can be reason. For that you need to consult your treating doctor.
Master and XXXXXXX technique is difficult to narrate through this forum. Shortly it is couple sex therapy in which couple has to follow some steps for sex one after the other as therapist tells without doing intercourse. You can probably search on net.
In short you can wait for a while (probably 15 days). If you do not succeed, go to psychiatrist/sexologist for consultation.
Master and XXXXXXX technique is difficult to narrate through this forum.Shortly it is couple sex therapy in which couple has to follow some steps for sex one after the other as therapist tells without doing intercourse.You can probably search on net.
In short you can wait for a while(probably 15 days). If you do not succeed, go to psychiatrist/sexologist for consultation.
All the best,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
you will be ok for sure, see detail answer
Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXXX,
Thanks for follow up queries.
You both are very well educated that is a positive point. Your wife is cooperative that is also good..You can go for sex couples counseling for your problem and chance of success is high.
As penis looses before ejaculation, it is not premature ejaculation. You do not have physical problem and history of successful masturbation means there is no physical problem in sex also. As same process happened in masturbation and sex, only technique differs.
Your wife is right up to some extent that you will get right soon. You and she did not have any past sex experience and you are married just before 5 days. For both of you it is new experience and you will adjust to each other slowly and get success. Many couple gets success after months also. So no need to consult someone urgently.
You try to overcome your anxiety by thinking that your wife has no problem and she wants to wait. You try to concentrate on romance and foreplay during sex. No thinking for entering or failure. Just go on. You will succeed in sometime.
Two points to be noted.
Your wife has some pain when you enter. Why it is there that should be checked. If her hymen is still intact, she is going to have pain for one or two successful sex until it broken and she needs to understand that and you also. This can be checked by herself through finger.
Another point is you were taking desvenlafaxine for anxiety. Means you are prone to anxiety. Same anxiety may be bothering you during sex, if it is so that can be reason. For that you need to consult your treating doctor.
Master and XXXXXXX technique is difficult to narrate through this forum. Shortly it is couple sex therapy in which couple has to follow some steps for sex one after the other as therapist tells without doing intercourse. You can probably search on net.
In short you can wait for a while (probably 15 days). If you do not succeed, go to psychiatrist/sexologist for consultation.
Master and XXXXXXX technique is difficult to narrate through this forum.Shortly it is couple sex therapy in which couple has to follow some steps for sex one after the other as therapist tells without doing intercourse.You can probably search on net.
In short you can wait for a while(probably 15 days). If you do not succeed, go to psychiatrist/sexologist for consultation.
All the best,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Bhagyalaxmi Nalaparaju
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