Brief Answer: Good luck Detailed Answer: Dear XXXX Welcome to HCM We understan your concerns I do understand your problems and distress. I suggest you not to worry too much. There are two ways to look into this. Positive and negative. You are getting depressed and annoyed because of a person who constantly harass you. This person happens to be your ex boy friend and you had some relationships. Just imagine that this person is a stranger and what could be your reaction to his harassment? You will naturally behave in such a manner as if a ma man is harassing you. You tell to poolice, you try your every might to destroy, you start hating that fellow etc. You will feel disturbed because of this fellow, but not depressed. You will feel like crushing him but not crushing self. You will feel like he should be kille but never think about suicide. Hope you understood. Your emotions are overwhelming because (possibly) you still have some emotional attachment with this fellow. Treat him as if he does not exist at all in your family life. Treat him as if he is a ma man who does every madness. Once you change your attitude towards this person, every scenario will change. Try and god will help you. Good luck. Dr. K V Anand PhD

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Brief Answer: People find satisfaction in ignorance Detailed Answer: Dear XXXX I am very happy that you understood. You are amazing. Amazing in the way that you are being troubled for 9 years. In another view point, you are adjusting with the troubled situation for the last 9 years. That is encouraging. No body has that experience in dealing with stressful situations. YOU DID IT AND ARE DOING IT. That fact should build your self confidence multifold. You should have learned from your experience. You have every opportunity to learn. But you are still reluctant. Let me put in another way. People have no idea about what will happen in their future. What diseases they might have in their future. They observe all possible precautions, like diet, exercise, vaccines etc. Still they are not sure. Questions about diseases do arise in their mind. They conveniently ignore it saying that they take precautions. Whereas it is not certain. People find satisfaction in ignorance where there is no answer for their question. Because there are lot of such question which do not have an answer or human beings cannot find an answer. People do have diseases. Suffer from diabetes, heart, lever or kidney troubles. In the initial stages of disease, they feel depressed, stressed and anxious. As time passes, they learn to live with it. Question is still there. What might happen in their future? They ignore it because they don't have answer to that question. Even though the situation is life threatening, people like to ignore to have peace. People with life threatening health conditions, learn to ignore, because they want to live life peacefully. In your case, the situation not at all life threatening. Still you are worried and struggling to ignore. You are experienced with the situation and still did not learn anything from it. WHY? Ask this question to yourself several times. There lies the answer. It is you who is creating emotional trouble. NOT THAT PERSON. He can only intrude and not intimidate. He tries intruding again and again because you are intimidated. He is satisfied in his cause. His cause is to disturb you emotionally. Show him that you ignore him, you do not get disturbed by his presence or mischief, that you are not intimidated, naturally he will tire. Then he will not dare try again, because he wants peace. Everyone wants to live peacefully. Spirituality shall work here. Come to this situation of peacefulness. Ignore his existence, see only your family. You are not along. Whole family is with you. Every well wisher is with you. You are not alone. Teach him a lesson. Do not get emotionally attached to that person because he is not existing without you keep him existent in your thoughts. Houseflies always disturbs us, but we never get emotional with them because..... Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck. God bless you. Dr. K V Anand PhD

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Brief Answer: Time should cure you. Detailed Answer: Dear XXXX Thanks. Yes. There is psychiatric treatment for this conflictual and emotional condition. Please wait for another fortnight before going for that option. My advices are valuable. They are worded in such a way that it reaches your unconscious mind. Your mind understands it even though you are skeptical. Your mind knows what to do. you should give it time to incorporate their action plans. I am sure that your mind should succeed and in turn you will be benefited. Means, you can come out of this emotional situation without psychiatric medications. Believe me. JUST 15 DAYS. God bless you.

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Brief Answer: God bless you Detailed Answer: Dear XXXX, Read and reread all my answers. Your unconscios mind knows what to do. It will do the ignorance part. Just give it time and watch its performance. In these 15 days you will learn to overcome your problem. Everything shall happen positive. You will see that things happening. Believe in me and you. Gox bless you.

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