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Question: I am so sad that I cannot do anything but cry about XXXXXXX ..I pray every day that i would die...I don't want to live without XXXXXXX ..he is never coming back.Last year when he saw me in the hospital he firmly believed that something bad would happen to me like it did his wife( she died of cancer at 60) his step son( he died the following year in a motorcycle accident) and both of his parents, who died in 2005 and 2008..he seemed to think that he was bad news and he was protecting me by staying away..I am sorry Dr Bishnoi but nothing is working to make me get out of this sadness and depresion...I keep begging God to let me die
Brief Answer:
Please try to avoid thinking negative
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Please don't think negative about yourself. You have been showing brave behaviour since beginning and please continue to feel same. I know it's really very bad and is difficult to pass time, but we are left with no other option. Try to think positive aspects of life.
Avoid thinking negative, instead try to relive good happiest moment you spent with him. Close your eyes and try to remember ten good moments when you people were together and you were feeling happy. Avoid thinking negatively at that time, this will give you some confidence and you will feel better.
Don't think that you don't want to live, this will do no justice to your life and your feelings towards him. Life is a gift from GOD and don't think bad about him.
All I can tell you is to wait, keep your optimism alive and remain hopeful. I know you are strong and you will come out of this bad phase. He had suffered significant family loss in last few years and he is also under severe stress. Keep one thing in mind that he lacks insight.
Thanks
Please try to avoid thinking negative
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Please don't think negative about yourself. You have been showing brave behaviour since beginning and please continue to feel same. I know it's really very bad and is difficult to pass time, but we are left with no other option. Try to think positive aspects of life.
Avoid thinking negative, instead try to relive good happiest moment you spent with him. Close your eyes and try to remember ten good moments when you people were together and you were feeling happy. Avoid thinking negatively at that time, this will give you some confidence and you will feel better.
Don't think that you don't want to live, this will do no justice to your life and your feelings towards him. Life is a gift from GOD and don't think bad about him.
All I can tell you is to wait, keep your optimism alive and remain hopeful. I know you are strong and you will come out of this bad phase. He had suffered significant family loss in last few years and he is also under severe stress. Keep one thing in mind that he lacks insight.
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Yogesh D
I am crying as I write this Dr Bishnoi...we just went past his house and I have a hard time believing that the love we shared is gone...it was dark and silent, so unlike him...Last January, he was so afraid that he caused me to have a heart attack and after he left my hospital room last January I told him to please not think he caused it...I didn't have a heart attack but it was just the severity of the dystonia which can mimic heart attacks..from that time on..he refused to see me, chasing me out of his store two weeks later in a very scary, angry threatening way telling me he was waiting to DATE another woman( it wasn't true but he was trying to chase me away anyway)my son called for the first welfare check after that and was concerned for my safety...he also had frequent memory loss and didn't remember doing certain things..I think he might also have DID but am not sure about that...but then in May he told me how deeply he loved me...I am so very confused....is his delusion that he thinks he might be bad for me that is that being with me would maybe cause me to die? He said so in March but I never could have believed that he would be gone so long as this...could he still love me?? I have such heartache...I cannot continue this way much longer...should I tell him that I miss him and wish he was here when I email him again? I have almost lost hope..today was a very very hard day...okay at first but nothing is much good or happy without him..
Brief Answer:
You can tell him about your condition in next mail
Detailed Answer:
Hello again and thanks for asking a follow up question
Yes it can be a possibility that due to his thinkings that he might be bad for you and may cause death, he has developed delusions or reaction formation against you. Sudden delusional idea may develop in such cases.
If he loves you or not can't be predicted at this stage but as per my opinion he has thinkings about you which got reflected in behaviour as blocking and unblocking XXXXXXX He has no insight so he is not aware of his actions.
Yes when you mail him next time (at the time we discussed in our earlier conversations) you can write details about your condition and that you miss him.
It's difficult time and there is no hope without him but you have to build hope in yourself. Positive thoughts and ideas will show you the best way. Try to avoid negative thinking about yourself. He used to think about yourself and cared about you, then delusional behaviour developed. But keep waiting for good time, your health will improve and he should also improve.
Thanks
You can tell him about your condition in next mail
Detailed Answer:
Hello again and thanks for asking a follow up question
Yes it can be a possibility that due to his thinkings that he might be bad for you and may cause death, he has developed delusions or reaction formation against you. Sudden delusional idea may develop in such cases.
If he loves you or not can't be predicted at this stage but as per my opinion he has thinkings about you which got reflected in behaviour as blocking and unblocking XXXXXXX He has no insight so he is not aware of his actions.
Yes when you mail him next time (at the time we discussed in our earlier conversations) you can write details about your condition and that you miss him.
It's difficult time and there is no hope without him but you have to build hope in yourself. Positive thoughts and ideas will show you the best way. Try to avoid negative thinking about yourself. He used to think about yourself and cared about you, then delusional behaviour developed. But keep waiting for good time, your health will improve and he should also improve.
Thanks
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Yogesh D
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