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I Am Very Short Temper And Not Able To Control My Anger. Which Specialist Should I Consult?
Question: I am very short temper. Cannot control my anger. Always have the habit of putting my foot in my mouth. thereafter repenting about what i did.
I am 39 years, know my problem, yet not able to control anger, do a lot of spiritual book reading, realise my mistake but not able to overcome it. What should i do for this...I always feel bad that my past was not good, lot my father at 10 years, a brother who sexually abused me at a young age, a brother who never cared for me, my marriage was bad, my wife tried her best to screw my life, i have no kids, to find peace, i tried out abnormal stuffs, like associating with same sex partners, all relief temporary, and till now am going through a very bad patch of life...the struggles do not end..I am suffering day in day out, when i see people around me - normal, have kids and successful, i feel demotivated and bad...Can you suggest some medication to relieve me from this ordeal, can u let me atleast how to control my anger
I am 39 years, know my problem, yet not able to control anger, do a lot of spiritual book reading, realise my mistake but not able to overcome it. What should i do for this...I always feel bad that my past was not good, lot my father at 10 years, a brother who sexually abused me at a young age, a brother who never cared for me, my marriage was bad, my wife tried her best to screw my life, i have no kids, to find peace, i tried out abnormal stuffs, like associating with same sex partners, all relief temporary, and till now am going through a very bad patch of life...the struggles do not end..I am suffering day in day out, when i see people around me - normal, have kids and successful, i feel demotivated and bad...Can you suggest some medication to relieve me from this ordeal, can u let me atleast how to control my anger
Hi XXXXXX,
Thanks for the query
I do feel for you for the fact that you have been deprived emotionally from early childhood period as you described. Whoever, passes through such phases, no one else can better understand the suffering then himself
People with ongoing and too many life stressors are more likely to develop from depression / dysthymia, where, irritability, anger is a prominent symptom
In such cases medicine and psychotherapy both are essential
Among medicines, SSRI / SNRI group of drugs with anger control technique are usually of help. Drugs like fluoxetine, citalopram etc are useful.
In psychotherapy, your life will be better understood in detail and then further guidance will be suggested, if you consult a psychiatrist / clinical psychologist. The following techniques will be helpful:
a. Whenever, you feel angry, leave the place or slowly count to 10. You can even take 10 XXXXXXX breaths.
b. Promise your self that you will keep quiet when you feel angry. You will only react when you are calm later.
c. If you're troubled with a problem, identify the solutions and discuss them with the person concerned.
d. Try and get some exercise every day. 30-40 minutes of jogging will help.
e. When you feel angry, practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word.
Hopefully, this should be the beginning of the end of your suffering.
Regards
Thanks for the query
I do feel for you for the fact that you have been deprived emotionally from early childhood period as you described. Whoever, passes through such phases, no one else can better understand the suffering then himself
People with ongoing and too many life stressors are more likely to develop from depression / dysthymia, where, irritability, anger is a prominent symptom
In such cases medicine and psychotherapy both are essential
Among medicines, SSRI / SNRI group of drugs with anger control technique are usually of help. Drugs like fluoxetine, citalopram etc are useful.
In psychotherapy, your life will be better understood in detail and then further guidance will be suggested, if you consult a psychiatrist / clinical psychologist. The following techniques will be helpful:
a. Whenever, you feel angry, leave the place or slowly count to 10. You can even take 10 XXXXXXX breaths.
b. Promise your self that you will keep quiet when you feel angry. You will only react when you are calm later.
c. If you're troubled with a problem, identify the solutions and discuss them with the person concerned.
d. Try and get some exercise every day. 30-40 minutes of jogging will help.
e. When you feel angry, practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word.
Hopefully, this should be the beginning of the end of your suffering.
Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Aparna Kohli
Drugs like fluoxetine, citalopram etc are useful.
Are the above drugs issued off the counter at medical shops withou prescription.
When and how are these to be consumed..any prescription.
And when to stop them. Hope they are not addictive.
Are the above drugs issued off the counter at medical shops withou prescription.
When and how are these to be consumed..any prescription.
And when to stop them. Hope they are not addictive.
Hi XXXXXXX
Thanks for writing back.
They are not addictive and ideally they should be available for prescription. In some places, they provide without prescription
They need to be started at low dose, gradually increase the dose to therapeutic dose range ( varies from drug to drug), wait for 2 weeks to see some response, if there is a response, continue the drug
But, in your case along with medication, psychotherapy or counseling is a must to get good symptom relief. Please see a psychiatrist to get a prescription.
Good luck
Thanks for writing back.
They are not addictive and ideally they should be available for prescription. In some places, they provide without prescription
They need to be started at low dose, gradually increase the dose to therapeutic dose range ( varies from drug to drug), wait for 2 weeks to see some response, if there is a response, continue the drug
But, in your case along with medication, psychotherapy or counseling is a must to get good symptom relief. Please see a psychiatrist to get a prescription.
Good luck
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Aparna Kohli
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