How to overcome absent mindedness?
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I'm going absent minded often when some one says something my mind is not concentrating on the subject instead it thinks of different situation which no where related to the subject's topic. Please advice
Posted Tue, 18 Feb 2014 in Mental Health
Answered by Dr. K. V. Anand 40 minutes later
Brief Answer: This is not abnormal. Be happy Detailed Answer: Dear XXXXXXX XXXXXXX XXXXXXX You are not alone. There are so many people around the world who complains almost the same kind of problem. Absent mindedness is actually not a disease. We become absent minded when the tasks at hand are overwhelming or when we are mentally too busy. Sometimes stress and anxiety, distress, negative thinking, disappointment in life, failures, lack of concrete and achievable goals, meaningless life etc can also cause absent mindedness. In our life we come across so many incidents which showcases absent mindedness. For example: We keep our car key somewhere and searches here and there. We do not get. Some other person tells you to sit and relax and take deep breath. We do, and then from nowhere, we remember where we kept the car key. Yes. That simple. Is this absent mindedness? If yes every individual in this world are suffering from this problem. You are not alone. Now is this abnormal? Definitely not. When so many people suffer from the same type of problem, it is supposed to be normal. How to overcome this: 1. Just thinking that it is not a disease or disorder and it is a common phenomena gives you enough confidence to ignore it. If you start worrying about it the problem gets more and more prominent. You should not feel bad that you are not mentally fit. It is very common that human mind works abnormally under prolonged stress. 2. Know what you are intending to do in your life. Have an achievable goal. Set short, medium and long term goals. Stick to those. Have a meaning for your life. 3. You definitely have other areas of interests and aptitudes. Find them, understand them and use them.You can go for counseling session and aptitude testing which should help you to find your potential. 4. Absent mindedness is not memory loss. It is temporary curtain over short term memory. 5. Accept that you are not born to have best self esteem & Do not push yourself to Do more, Forgive yourself , Love yourself, remember best days when you felt proud of yourself. 6. When CNS (Central Nervous System) is so disturbed by stress. Its a biological fact that you will face issues with memory, emotional intelligence (crying often, mood swings etc). So, Firstly your nervous system should be cooled down to zero state where you are completely relaxed, with zero stress and thoughts in mind. This will help in CNS adjusting itself for getting healthier and this will improve hopefulness, confidence, peace of mind. Fact of mind is that the more you stress it the more stupidly it behaves. 7. There is a psychologically tested therapy E-CUT : What is the therpy? this is just a practice of striking of the alphabet 'e' in the text in your computer screen. Text alignment should not be in paragraphs it has to be justified(Ctrl+J in msword) not right/left justified. This E cut has to be done daily with exactly 12 hrs gap between . i.e like 8AM and 8PM. This practice will help in creating the thought cycles in mind and avoid mood swings and help in conquering of self. 8. Meditation should definitely help. Taking shallow deep breaths and watching the body movement during it for around 20 minutes (Mindfulness meditation) relaxes your nerves and provides you enough oxygen to be stress free for 24 hours. Do it in morning after bath preferably. 9. You can always write down whatever you wants to remember. 10. Last, for your specific problem, Don't concentrate to what they say, just observe. Observe their clothes, eyes, mouth and whatever you want to observe. Automatically the words should enter your mind through ears. Don't worry. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck. Dr. K V Anand For more visit : WWW.WWWW.WW
Follow-up: How to overcome absent mindedness? 21 hours later
Thanks for the immediate response doctor. I have one quick question. when someone is taking i also tried concentrating by observing their clothes, eyes, mouth etc., & that perfectly stores in my mind there's no problem in that, but the thing is after i leave from that place i complete forget the conversation except the last or the first topic which i spoke. This forgotten things strike my mind when someone comes & ask me about the status, after he reminds me that particular topic comes from top to bottom in my mind & i realize that i forgot. Thanks in advance for your valuable answer. XXXX
Answered by Dr. K. V. Anand 1 hour later
Brief Answer: Nothing is Impossible. Detailed Answer: Dear XXXX I am very glad to note your satisfaction with my answer. When I answered. I was sure that you will come with this question. Because, in my experience, almost all came with the same question, and that is the pattern. In your question itself you can find the answer. You are not forgetting anything. You store everything in your brain even when you are not concentrating. That is true. I shall give you an example: visualize your house, furniture, each and every items in your home, the road which you always travels, the bus, the commuters, the landmarks, bus stops etc etc. You will be able to remember even minute details. You will have just give a try. You never intended to keep them in your mind, never tried to learn them. Then how they are in your brain? That is our capacity. You should not under estimate your capacity. Underestimating can cause anxiety and thereby further problems. As I already told you, this forgetfulness is normal and is mainly because of anxiety. Not pure anxiety, but as a curtain, just a curtain. Take deep breathes and it is over. Now positive thinking matters. Till now you were using the same words "I have forgetfulness, I am being troubled, I am unable to concentrate, I am drifting away from subject etc". Such thinking actually puts a negative stamp on your unconscious mind. (For eg: Why do we fear ghost when we have never seen them? Because elders and other medias and friends threatened us again and again about it. It was engraved or got sealed in our unconscious mind. Otherwise why should we fear something which we never had seen?). What we have to do is - Think positive and have a positive stamp on your mind. Talk to you positively, imagine positively, imagine that such a forgetfulness is not existent, and have the example which I gave you the previous paragraph and always trust "nothing is impossible". You shall be a success. I assure you. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck. God bless you. Dr. K V Anand WWW.WWWW.WW
Follow-up: How to overcome absent mindedness? 15 minutes later
Thank you so much Doctor From now i will engrave in my mind that i don't have forgetfulness. Thanks for the immediate response i highly appreciate it. Best Regards, XXXX
Answered by Dr. K. V. Anand 2 minutes later
Brief Answer: Thank you Detailed Answer: Thank you, dear Sarvan. God bless you.