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Am Attracted To Men, Like To Sleep With Men. Do Not Want To Be Gay
Question: sir i m male23yrs. ..i am attractd to men since 4yrs. .i dint sleep with any. but i masturbate taking place of girl in porn. ...and i like to sleep with men. ...please help me. i dont want to be XXXXXXX
one friend said u r homo.
one said u talk like girls and eat like girls. ..
i want to be pure man. ..please help me
one friend said u r homo.
one said u talk like girls and eat like girls. ..
i want to be pure man. ..please help me
Hello XXXXXXX.
Thank you for posting your query.
You say that you are a 24 year old male. This means you know perfectly well that you area male. All that you need is a little bit of confidence and self belief.
Sexual orientation is an individual's prerogative., it is all in your mind. If you believe that you are a male you will be a male, and if you believe otherwise, then you will be a female. This is only in your mind.
Depending on this belief, the way you interact with your peers varies.
The reason for this development of sexual orientation is not well understood. The possible reasons include the amount of time spent with a particular gender, genetic, peer pressure.
What ever the reason, you have the absolute right to decide what you want to be, how you want to live your life and with who you want to sleep. It is entirely up to you.
You will be able to identify yourself by introspecting well. You need to look XXXXXXX into yourself and trust your innermost desire and feelings.
If being with men makes you happy, there is nothing wrong in being happy by being with men.
You can seek professional help by a psychiatrist or a psychologist to make a decision. You need to openly discuss all your feelings without any hesitation.
It is not abnormal to have this way of thinking. If you believe that you are a male then no one on this earth can dispute that.
So it is up to you.
Regarding the way you behave, you can always consciously change this. Whenever you are with your friends, make sure that you watch the way you speak and do not respond spontaneously. Think and act. This way you can change your habit and slowly this will become your identity.
Hope the information provided is of some help to you. Please write back if you have additional concerns.
Please do accept my answer if you have no further questions.
Wishing you a happy life.
Regards.
Thank you for posting your query.
You say that you are a 24 year old male. This means you know perfectly well that you area male. All that you need is a little bit of confidence and self belief.
Sexual orientation is an individual's prerogative., it is all in your mind. If you believe that you are a male you will be a male, and if you believe otherwise, then you will be a female. This is only in your mind.
Depending on this belief, the way you interact with your peers varies.
The reason for this development of sexual orientation is not well understood. The possible reasons include the amount of time spent with a particular gender, genetic, peer pressure.
What ever the reason, you have the absolute right to decide what you want to be, how you want to live your life and with who you want to sleep. It is entirely up to you.
You will be able to identify yourself by introspecting well. You need to look XXXXXXX into yourself and trust your innermost desire and feelings.
If being with men makes you happy, there is nothing wrong in being happy by being with men.
You can seek professional help by a psychiatrist or a psychologist to make a decision. You need to openly discuss all your feelings without any hesitation.
It is not abnormal to have this way of thinking. If you believe that you are a male then no one on this earth can dispute that.
So it is up to you.
Regarding the way you behave, you can always consciously change this. Whenever you are with your friends, make sure that you watch the way you speak and do not respond spontaneously. Think and act. This way you can change your habit and slowly this will become your identity.
Hope the information provided is of some help to you. Please write back if you have additional concerns.
Please do accept my answer if you have no further questions.
Wishing you a happy life.
Regards.
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