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Wife never having orgasm - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Very Good Posted in: Sexual Problems
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User :   hi
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   i have made the payment for a day but its not going through it always disconnects the chat after 5 miniuts
User :   i wanted to discuss some sex related issues
Doctor :   sure go ahead
Doctor :   I can help you
Doctor :   Regarding the technical difficulties let us through with this chat
User :   are you there
Doctor :   if the chat has some probelm I will make sure that your payment is not wasted
Doctor :   Please go ahead with the queries you have
User :   my wife never has orgasm
Doctor :   Ok
User :   and i think i m not doing it that well
User :   i mean i m not able to make her reach that point
User :   but the think is she never had orgasm in her life it seems
Doctor :   Please contine with your description
User :   she is not sure what is orgasm
User :   when i do it she like it but she there is no peak point for her
User :   is because penis is small
User :   i dont know
User :   i had sex only with one girl before her
Doctor :   The size of penis is never a criteria to attain an orgasm for females
User :   ok
User :   so what is the matter with her
Doctor :   Do not worry about the size
Doctor :   Let me ask yu few questions
Doctor :   When were you married?
User :   sure
User :   a month ago
Doctor :   How many times did you participate in sex yet?
User :   but we are in relation since two years
User :   every night
Doctor :   Do you mean she was not happy for the last 2 yrs
User :   not we were going around for last two years not we got married
User :   i mean now we go married
Doctor :   ok
User :   but we are in relation sice last two years
Doctor :   Since how long you are having sex?
User :   two years back
Doctor :   Ok did not she attain an orgasm any time in these two years?
User :   no
User :   she dint
User :   i do it for hours somtimes still she doesnt
User :   r u there
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   I am reading
User :   i alwyas come to this point and the chat gets disconnected
Doctor :   Ok
User :   thats y i made the payment but they are not giving me a sutable date
Doctor :   fine You will be able to chat with me
User :   can we continew this chat
Doctor :   fulll length today
User :   ok good
Doctor :   Let me tell few important things now
Doctor :   regarding the orgasm
User :   ok
Doctor :   An orgasm is a feeling of intense physical pleasure and release of tension, accompanied by involuntary and rhythmic contractions of the women's pelvic floor muscles. She actually feels it herself
User :   ok
Doctor :   20% of the women does not have orgasms
Doctor :   as they report
Doctor :   even others who orgasm normally will not 50% of times
Doctor :   This condition is called Anorgasmia
User :   what is the cure for this why she doesnt discharg anything
Doctor :   Some women describe the feeling as a tingle, while others describe fireworks all over the body.
Doctor :   You know orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation necessary to trigger an orgasm.
Doctor :   Now regarding the cause of it
Doctor :   there are two types one is because of underlying medical conditions and the other is psychological
Doctor :   I wanted her to check with a Gynecologist if she has some underlying medical problem
Doctor :   Does she have painful intercourse?
Doctor :   are you with me?
Doctor :   Please leave your correct number
User :   yes
Doctor :   We are trying to call you
User :   i m with you
Doctor :   Does she have painful intercourse?
Doctor :   Does she lubricate during the sex?
Doctor :   Please answer them
User :   no if we apply cream
Doctor :   pain?
User :   no pain
User :   she like it when i do
User :   what do u mean by underlying medical problem
Doctor :   Is she taking any medicines
Doctor :   any gynecological problem
User :   no
Doctor :   her periods?
User :   ya she get it
Doctor :   Does she feel guilty during sex
Doctor :   does she have any apprehensions
Doctor :   Do you guys have favourable relations in all topics
User :   i dint get that
User :   Do you guys have favourable relations in all topics ??????????
Doctor :   Does she feel guilty during sex about sex
User :   no she dosnt
Doctor :   does she have any apprehensions
Doctor :   Do both of you agree on all topics

Doctor :   before you do in your family
User :   no nuthing like that we are married now
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Just ask her to remember various times when she felt an orgasm
Doctor :   if ever
User :   we dont agree on all topics and i think no one does thats very natural
User :   she never thats wot is the issue
Doctor :   ok fine
User :   that she neve felt an orgasm
User :   in any state
User :   r u there
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   you do not have any relationship problems
User :   this is the only problem
Doctor :   and you say that she has no health problems too
User :   no
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I think now counselling and sex therapy might help you
Doctor :   but this is only after the gynecological examination is done and ruled out
Doctor :   That is important too
Doctor :   Counselling includes
Doctor :   Understanding the body better
Doctor :   how you would like her to be touched
Doctor :   which a Sex counsellor or a Sex therapist will be doing
Doctor :   Therapy includes sex education, help with communication skills, and behavioral exercises that you and your partner try at home.
User :   ok
Doctor :   they are something called sensate focus exercises
Doctor :   a specific set of body touching exercises that teach you how to touch and pleasure your partner without worrying about orgasm
Doctor :   you and your partner shall learn how to combine a situation that allows you to achieve orgasm รข?? such as clitoral stimulation
User :   but for that i ll have to contact a sex theraoist
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   She or he will also be called Sex Counsellors
User :   ok
Doctor :   If you first reach a Gynecologist who will conduct
Doctor :   basic body examination and rule out nothing is wrong
Doctor :   and she will refer you to the sex therapist in that area
Doctor :   these techniques and others told by sex therapists help you a lot
Doctor :   First yu have to arrive at situations and you should witness what is orgasm meant by her
Doctor :   then only you can make a note of them
Doctor :   and practice it in your daily life
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Did you follow what I say?
User :   yes
Doctor :   Do not worry
Doctor :   It is something not easy achievable in a day or two
Doctor :   it takes sometime
Doctor :   but both of you should co opearte
Doctor :   importantly
User :   yes
User :   and what about me
Doctor :   If you are doing hours together I suppose you are at the best of healt
Doctor :   health
User :   how shell i increase my size
Doctor :   Believe me there is no medication to increase the size of the penis
User :   if thats wot the reasone is
Doctor :   if not surgery
Doctor :   I shall send you a document on the Sexual myths and facts
Doctor :   You should compulsorily go through it
User :   ok
Doctor :   It will rub off all your myths
Doctor :   about the size of the organ
Doctor :   Women's vaginal size is just 2 inches
Doctor :   every man will be able to satisfy her sexual thirst
Doctor :   even with the minimum size
Doctor :   I shall send you the document on these things to your email ID
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Please confirm the details
Doctor :   YYYY@YYYY
Mobile : 0000
User :   ok
Doctor :   Is it correct
Doctor :   so that I can send them to you
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done.
Doctor :   Hello there
Doctor :   Did you fill the feedback form
Doctor :   I hope you are busy with other things
Doctor :   We wish you come back once again after going through the document I send to your Email
Doctor :   I hope that will clear your doubts
Doctor :   too
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting HealthcareMagic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
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