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Ways to cope with stress - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi.
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   Hello
User :   i think i have a stress related issue
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   For Administrative and health purposes, Please provide these details-Age: Gender: Occupation: Location: Marital Status: Weight and Height: Dependents: Yes/ No.
User :   Age - 29
User :   Female
User :   Home Maker
User :   Married
User :   5'4''
User :   70-72 keeps oscillating
User :   No and Yes
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Please go ahead with your query.
User :   the issue is i have a loving husband
User :   yet i crave for my family members attention
User :   especially my mother
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Since when are you feeling this way?
User :   as far as i can recall its been from the age of 11
User :   its too long
User :   i was a state level athlete, never seen my parents quarelling and since i have 2 siblings
User :   one is 3 years younger to me
User :   and the other 11 years younger to me
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   at a tender age when i was interested in studies and sports , i was forced into responsibiliies of taking care of my silings
User :   also the relative influences was too much to handle
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   till 11 years i was brought up like a boy
User :   and then suddenly i ahd to be a girl
User :   for ex
User :   in dressing - i was allowed to wear nothing but pants, shorts etc
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   and then i was forced to wear skirts , chudidars etc
User :   in short i was a tomboy
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   but this sudden transition hit me badly when i was entering puberty
User :   my mothes sister had a huge influence on my mom
User :   and i loved wearing jeans - but that was a taboo because i would attract guys attentions
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   but it would be ok if my sunt would wear it
Doctor :   That happens for all girls.
Doctor :   It is something one has to cope with.
User :   I was totally fed up with the double standards and hypocracy
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   i understand your feeling of injustice
User :   thx
Doctor :   But when the situation is that way, it sometimes helps us to mould ourselves to the situation.
User :   yeah and it has moulded in a very bad way
Doctor :   Ok
User :   i mean how much can a person intake the stress
Doctor :   Yes,
User :   i mean every wrong thing that goes in their life - I m to be blamed
Doctor :   I suggest that you talk to your people regarding that you need to live your life your way.
User :   why am I targeted every single time and for every small or big things
User :   well, thats another thing
Doctor :   Just try to communicate your feelings
User :   cant
Doctor :   with the p[eople around you
Doctor :   that helps in most of the situations
User :   Dont u think that at this age i would have communicated with them
User :   I have tried - thru sweet talks, through fights
User :   nothing works doc
User :   finally i have come to u
User :   so that atleast i can get some sound advise and which i can follow
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   i was feeling low and really down
Doctor :   Yes
User :   my huby didnt have an answer for this - cos he is fed up of these stuff
Doctor :   I can say that as you are an adult now
Doctor :   you can try asserting yourself
Doctor :   as it would help
Doctor :   I suggest you try to find a job
Doctor :   as that improves your self confidence levels
Doctor :   are you there?
User :   sure i am here
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done
User :   i was working all these years
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   and due to health issues and hifts i had to quit
Doctor :   I suggest that you start working again
User :   i know for one thing sure i m stressed out
Doctor :   as working all these yeasrs
Doctor :   and quitting is not easy
User :   i know
User :   i am not a quitter
Doctor :   yes
User :   but that was the amount of stress that i had taken
User :   i had to quit
Doctor :   That might be the main reason for you feeling bitter now.
User :   Does being far away from these kind of people help me in my self-development?
Doctor :   I suggest that you manage whatever stress you have, make a daily planner
Doctor :   No
Doctor :   That would be running away from the problem
User :   trust me
Doctor :   at one stage ir the other you have to come back
User :   i have not ran away frm past 29 years
Doctor :   running away is never the answer
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   so dont give up now
Doctor :   i suggest that you start working atleast for part time
User :   i feel theres no point to increase the stress level
Doctor :   for a minimal basic pay
User :   People = Stress ;
Doctor :   Then the feeling of inadequacy may persist
User :   I love my family members
Doctor :   Thats not always true
Doctor :   yes
User :   in this case it is
User :   i have been dealing it from age 11
User :   i just didnt want to attach a guilt on my part being leaving for solitude
Doctor :   yes
User :   hence i gave ur advise a try
Doctor :   leaving is never the answer
Doctor :   Have you filled the feedback form which I have sent?
User :   being far for a minimal period of time
User :   did that
Doctor :   it will come back again when you come back
User :   u r a psychiatrist right?
Doctor :   I am a General Practitioner
User :   right
User :   i needed a psychiatrist - no offense though
Doctor :   I am a general practitioner
User :   right
User :   it was nice chatting with u
Doctor :   anything else?
User :   bye
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting Health care magic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
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