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Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
User :   Hello Sir
Doctor :   how can i help u
User :   I am XXXXX from chennai
Doctor :   hello XXXXX
Doctor :   ok
User :   I am recently married
Doctor :   please proceed with your query
Doctor :   ok
User :   when we try to have sex my wife is fearing so much
Doctor :ok
User :   she is not allowing me to insert
Doctor :   ok
User :   she is fearing a lot
Doctor :   i will help u in this
User :   and also when I try to insert my finger she said it is paining too much
User :   so till now I didnt have sex
User :   Thank u sir
Doctor :   can i ask few Q
User :   Sure Sir
Doctor :   wats your age
Doctor :   wats your wife age
User :   I am 30
User :   my wife is 25
Doctor :   ok
User :   our marriage is a love marriage.
Doctor :   ok
User :   she is loving me a lot.. I am also love her a lot
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   how many days since marriage
User :   30 days
Doctor :   ok
User :   Also she is not willing to touch my genetic parts..
User :   SO I am only touching her and foreplaying
Doctor :   how many times you will try for sex in a week
User :   2 or 3 times
Doctor :   ok
User :   she gave me hugs and kisses that times..
Doctor :   do yu have plenty of fore play
Doctor :   fore actual sex
User :   but not more than that
User :   Yes Doctor.. I do lot of foreplay for about 15 mins
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   is she stimulated by fore play
User :   100%
Doctor :   ok
User :   but when I try to insert or insert fingers she is scaring
Doctor :   does she enjoy the fore play
User :   yes doctor.. I can feel her enjoyment.. she also telling which is great
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   do yu stimulate her nipples
Doctor :   or breast
User :   Yes doctor
User :   I lick that so many times
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   do yu use saliva
User :   No doctor.. just sucking
Doctor :   need to stimulate the nipples maily by tongue and sailava
Doctor :   its nipples not the whole breast
User :   Yes I do using toungue
Doctor :   ok
User :   3 time I suck her vegina also..
Doctor :   do yu stimulate the umblicus
User :   she is telling that is not higenic
Doctor :   or abdominal portion
User :   umblicus means ?
Doctor :   stomach region
User :   Yes doctor, some times not always
Doctor :   ok
User :   her stomach is sensitive, if i do that she is lauging
Doctor :   is your erection normal
User :   no doctor, when i do foreplay i have errection, when I try to insert it is getting reduced..
Doctor :   is your ejaculation normal
User :   I am also fearing that I am having erectile dysfunction
Doctor :   ok
User :   Yes Doctor. But when I do masterbate I found that I have PE
User :   bcoz it come very soon
Doctor :   do yu masturbate regularly
User :   before marriage I do 3 times a week
Doctor :   after marriage
User :   no doctor
Doctor :   wats your occupation
User :   software engineer
Doctor :   as per your symtoms
Doctor :   its premature ejaculation
Doctor :   its not erection dysfuction
User :   ok doctor

User :   but I didnt release the semon doctor while i foreplay

Doctor :   premature ejaculation is a condition that most of men face atleast once in a life
Doctor :  
but after masturbation is the release of semen normal
User :   yes doctor

Doctor :   did yu have sex before marriage
User :   no doctor

Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
is her vaginal opening normal
User :  
That i dont know doctor..
User :   how to know that doctor
Doctor :  
how many finger are yu able to introduce
User :  
she didnt allow me to insert a bit..
User :   that time she is scaring too much
User :  
so I dint do that
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
does she make her
User :  
no doctor
Doctor :  
is she making the vaginal opening tight
Doctor :  
and making it tight
User :  
yes doctor
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
is she uncomfortable at that time
Doctor :  
is he scared
User :   scared and uncomfortable

Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
this condition is called Vaginismus
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
Its one of the most common sexual disorder
User :  
ok doctor
Doctor :  
in virgin women
Doctor :  
the puposefully thighten the vaginal opening
User :   how to cure that doctor

Doctor :  
and the thigh muscles
User :  
yes doctor
Doctor :   does she get pain while inserting the fingers
Doctor :  
in the vaginal opening
User :   Yes doctor

Doctor :  
ok
User :  
so I took out
Doctor :   are yu using any gel while having ses
Doctor :  
sex
User :   no doctor

Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
did yu sit and talk to her
User :   Yes doctor

Doctor :   wat did she say
User :   she said, I am afraid that if she cannot have baby.. is this normal... and she is worrying to make me tempt and not having sex

Doctor :  
she need sexual education first
User :   she is totally worrying abt her condition

Doctor :  
and a good counselling
Doctor :  
this is common in most of virgin women
Doctor :  
not to worry about that
Doctor :  
Vaginismus is highly treatable.
User :   ok doctor :)

Doctor :   Successful vaginismus treatment does not require drugs, surgery
Doctor :  
The sexual pain, tightness and penetration difficulties from vaginismus are fully treatable and can be completely overcome with no remaining pain or discomfort.
User :   ok doctor
User :  
where can i take her to go for the counselling in chennai
User :  
India
Doctor :   where do yu stay
User :  
Chennai, Tamilnadu
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
any sexual conuselling is fine
User :  
ok doctor
User :  
Doctor I have one more question also... can I ask now?
Doctor :  
please proceed
Doctor :  
i am here to answer your query
User :   At the time of trying to insert, my penis erection is not enough, it is getting reduced.

Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
i wil give her good medical tips to her problem first
Doctor :  
and then come to yu
User :   sure doctor
Doctor :  
wrong beliefs needs to be clarified
Doctor :   this problem is temproary it wil not lead to inferitlity
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
she also need certain exercises
User :   sure doctor

Doctor :   to strengthen her pelvic floor muscles
Doctor :  
its called Keigel's exercise
User :   ok doctor

User :  
any other things she needs to do doctor?
Doctor :  
it includes
Doctor :  
try to stop the flow of urine while you're going to the bathroom.
Doctor :   make a urge to urniate and then stop by holding the muscles
Doctor :  
ok
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
let she insert a finger inside vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles.
Doctor :   she should be able to feel the vagina tighteness
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
then relax your muscles
Doctor :  
let her do these exercise on her own
User :  
ok doctor
Doctor :  
the she will not feel the fear
Doctor :  
if she wants she can also use the lubricants like salaiva
Doctor :   to stimulate her sexual parts
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
one thing is there is no harm is oral sex
Doctor :  
stimulation of vagina by tounge and sailava is a very good fore play
Doctor :  
to stimulate her and relax her
User :   oh ok.. Can I do that.

Doctor :  
oral sex is not bad
Doctor :  
its a normal part of sex
Doctor :  
every one does it but they wont reveal it
User :  
It taste not good doctor, one time i did.. there is a liquid from her part..
Doctor :  
do yu know what is clitoris
User :   Yes doctor.. I saw anatomy

User :  
and I read some books
Doctor :   clitoris is the highly sensitive point with rich nerve supply region
User :  
ok doctor
Doctor :  
its just above the vaginal opening
Doctor :  
yu need to stimulate this part
Doctor :  
not the vaginal opening
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
it does not taste bad
Doctor :  
and it has no discharge also
User :  
ok doctor
Doctor :  
yu can applyK-Y jelly to her vaginal region
Doctor :  
this will reduce the pain and tightness of the vaginal opening
User :   where can I get this doctor

Doctor :  
yu will get this i medical shop
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
before sex let her be realaxed
Doctor :  
not stressed or tensed
Doctor :  
be calm
User :  
ok doctor
Doctor :  
overall its sexual education
User :  
ok doctor
Doctor :  
pelvic floor exercises
Doctor :  
and behvioural counselling
Doctor :  
will help her to over come this problem
Doctor :  
do yu have any doubts in this
User :  
ok doctor. Thank you
User :  
I dont have any doubt now
Doctor :  
next is your query
Doctor :  
proceed
User :   when I do foreplay I am getting erection, but soon I loose it.. bcoz she is not simulating mine and I got bored

Doctor :   thats normal
User :  
so at the time of trying to insert I dont have enough erection.
Doctor :  
are yu intrested in oral sex
User :   Yes
User :  
but she is not giving me
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
do yu smoke
Doctor :  
or consume alcohol
User :  
I had that habit 3 months back
User :  
yes doctor I consumed before marriage
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
have yu stopped it completely now
User :  
and lot of alcohol. in a week around 6 times..
User :  
now I am taking that 2 week once
Doctor :  
wat do yu take
Doctor :  
how much ml
User :  
vodka, gin, whisky 180 to 200 ml
Doctor :  
wats your ht and wt
User :   I am 167 cm.. And my weight is 72

Doctor :  
both smoking and alcohol has proven to reduce the fertlilly
User :  
oh ok doctor
Doctor :  
and increases the chance of erectile dysfunction
User :  
oh
Doctor :  
and premature ejaculation
User :   oh ok doctor. is there a way to cure that now

Doctor :  
it will also reduce the sperm oount
Doctor :  
need to stop alcohol and smoking completely
User :   sure doctor.

Doctor :  
ok
User :  
is chewing tobacco is also cause these things, I am doing that sometimes
Doctor :  
yu dont have any erection problem
User :  
ok doctor
Doctor :  
yes because it contains tobbaco
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
its normal for every male if the penis is not stimulated
Doctor :  
the it will loose the erections
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :   yu can self stimulate the parts like few minutes of masturbation
Doctor :  
then insert the penis into the vagina
Doctor :  
sivan not to worry yu dont have any problems
Doctor :  
is her condition is treated
User :  
ok doctor. Thank you so much :)
Doctor :  
then every thing will be alright
User :  
Thank you so much for your replies...
Doctor :  
yu need to take some multivitamin
Doctor :  
with antioxidants
User :  
Yes doctor.. can u tell me the name of the brand
Doctor :  
i will presribe yu now
User :  
Thank you doctor
Doctor :   ANTOXID soft gel capsules
Doctor :  
once daily for atleast 1 month
User :   ok doctor

Doctor :  
please fill the feed back form
Doctor :  
need to take this capsules after dinner once daily
Doctor :  
is there any thing else i can help yu with
User :   for now I dont have any other questions doctor.

Doctor :  
ok
User :  
Thank you so much for all your answers
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting HealthcareMagic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
User :  
Sure doctor. Thank you :)
Doctor :  
ok bye for now
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