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Vaginismus and its treatment, Sexual orgasms in women - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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User :   hi
Doctor :   hi, how can i help u
Doctor :   are yu there
User :   i need some adive from you
Doctor :   please proceed with your query
User :   my wife does not get orgasm while having sex
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   i will help u in this
User :   also she feels oral sex is bad
User :   is it really so?
Doctor :   can i ask few Q
User :   sure
Doctor :   wats your age
User :   26
Doctor :   your wife age
User :   24
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   how many times in a week do yu have sex
User :   2-3
Doctor :   is it a protected sex or unprotected
User :   earlier it was unpro..
User :   but now i am using protection
Doctor :   is your penile erection normal
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   hi are yu there
User :   yes it is
User :   sorry the connection seems to be slow
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   is the ejaculation normal
User :   yes i guess so
Doctor :   do yu have kids
User :   no
User :   just married 4 mnths ago
User :   i tired using my fingers on her
User :   but still
Doctor :   do yu have plenty of fore play before original sex
User :   she gets excited when i use figners
User :   but does not allow me to carry on
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   i will give yu good sexual tips to overcome this problem
User :   ok
Doctor :   first yu need to sit with her and freely talk about
Doctor :   her sexual intrests
Doctor :   and yu also need to expalin your sexual intrest to her
Doctor :   fore play is very important to stimulate females
User :   ok
User :   we have some 20-30 mins of fp
Doctor :   so first stimulate the nipples mainly with tonuge and fingeres
User :   before actual sex
Doctor :   it should be gentle
User :   ok
Doctor :   then the whloe breast is to be stimulated
Doctor :   second is to stimulate abdominal region
Doctor :   finally its the vaginal region
Doctor :   need to stimulate this with fingers and tonuge
User :   is it ok if i use tounge?
Doctor :   using salaiva
Doctor :   no harm in oral sex
Doctor :   its 100% safe
User :   ok
Doctor :   do yu know wat is clitoris or G point
User :   i know clit
User :   its above the vaginal opening right?
User :   i am not srue abt g point
Doctor :   yes yu are right
Doctor :   clit is same as clitoris
User :   yes
User :   what abt g point then?
Doctor :   G point is the area around the clit
Doctor :   these are the 2 areas in females with maximum sensation
User :   what are those?
Doctor :   need to stimulat this with fingers with little saliva
Doctor :   its clit and G point
User :   is g spot diff for g point
Doctor :   if she does not like oral sex
Doctor :   g spot is clit
Doctor :   the area around the clit or g spot is G point
Doctor :   is that fine
User :   i am little confused... i had heard g spot in somewhere inside the vagina
User :   is it so?
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   That g spot is different
Doctor :   not to get confused
User :   ok .. i was asking abt that only
User :   which is inside vagina and has higest excitment point i read somewhere in paper
Doctor :   as yu said there is one more G spot inside the vagina
Doctor :   no
Doctor :   clit and neighbour area is most sensitive region
Doctor :   after that is G spot
Doctor :   not to worry about these anamtomical structures
Doctor :   main thing is to get orgasm
Doctor :   is she does not like the oral sex
User :   no i guess
Doctor :   the fingers should be wet when stimulating the clit
Doctor :   use only saliva
Doctor :   to make the finger wet
Doctor :   there is no harm in oral sex
Doctor :   its the one of the best way to get orgasm
User :   ok
Doctor :   yu can sit with her and expalin to her
User :   she does not understnad
User :   she feels its bad
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
then apply little salaiva over the clit
User :   ok
Doctor :   make yur fingers wet with salaiva and them stimulate the parts
Doctor :   even stimulate the walls of the vagina
User :   ok
Doctor :   the4n go for 3-5 strokes to the vagina
Doctor :   then withdraw the penis
Doctor :   again go for fore play fo 5-6 min
Doctor :   the have a second stoke
Doctor :   do yu masturbate regularlgy?
User :   yes i do
Doctor :   how many times in a week
User :   after marriage i dont do taht much earlier 3-4 times week
Doctor :   ok
User :   and when i started at age of 14-15 2 times a day i guess...
Doctor :   i am sorry to ask did yu have sex with other girl
User :   no
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   thats good
Doctor :   again yu can sit and talk to her
User :   ok
Doctor :   and say that doctor has advised to have oral sex
Doctor :   no bad or harm in it
User :   he he he .. thats good
Doctor :   do yu perefer anal sex
User :   no never tried
Doctor :   its better to avoid
User :   i am eager though
Doctor :   as it causes pain and agony
User :   i fear for her .. thats the reason never tried and also i heard it can cause infection
Doctor :   and early ejaculation
Doctor :   with condoms its safe no risk of infection
Doctor :   after how many stokes do yu ejaculate
User :   1-2mins i guess
Doctor :   do yu use condoms as protection
User :   the thing is it pains for her
Doctor :   do use condoms as protection
User :   her openign is too tight
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   this condition is called Vaginismus
User :   ok
User :   how to over come this
Doctor :   this is due to stress, tension, fear
Doctor :   they tighten the vaginal muscles and thigh muscles
Doctor :   so the insertion is difficult
Doctor :   is this the problem
User :   i guess so
Doctor :   ok
User :   and i find diffculty in stroking
Doctor :   she is afraid
Doctor :   thats one thing
Doctor :   and getting orgasm is the second issue
Doctor :   she should be explained in details about sex
User :   ok
User :   and what abt my stamina
User :   how to imp it
Doctor :   by saying its the natural process
Doctor :   no need hide or feel shy
Doctor :   every one will do the same thing
User :   yeep
Doctor :   Its will help her a lot if she has a direct talk with sex experts
Doctor :   thats sexual counselling
User :   ok
Doctor :   this will help her a lot
Doctor :   regarding your stamina
User :   ok i will ask her to login and have a chat as i did with u
Doctor :   thats fine
User :   last q
Doctor :   please proceed
User :   i heard that if we abort first child
Doctor :   yes
User :   then its diffciult to concieve
Doctor :   when was the first child aborted
Doctor :   at how many weeks of pregnancy
Doctor :   hi are yu there
User :   sorry
User :   not mine
User :   just asking
Doctor :   its ok
User :   is it ok to abort thta the q
Doctor :   let me explain to yu if is within 8- 10 wks
Doctor :   its fine
Doctor :   not an issue
Doctor :   if its done by tablets
Doctor :   there are no harm
Doctor :   if its more than 10 weeks
Doctor :   is done by surgery (minor ) then
User :   ok
Doctor :   the chance of gettting pregnant is dealayed
User :   thats helpful
User :   thanks a lot ...
Doctor :   i will advice yu a good multiviamin
Doctor :   please fill the feed back form
User :   will catch latter .. if have time
User :   sure
Doctor :   Tab. Cobadex forte once daily after food in the nite for 1 month
User :   for?
Doctor :   its nice chatting with you
Doctor :   to keep yu more acitve
User :   thanks...
Doctor :   and to improve the stamina
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting HealthcareMagic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
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