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Vagina contracting during sex - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 28-May-2013
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Very Good Posted in: Sexual Problems
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User:hi
Doctor:Hi
Doctor:This is Dr. XXXXXXX
User:Hi
User: XXXXXXX
User:i got married
Doctor:How are you doing?
Doctor:ok
User:recently
User:i am good
User:thx
User:u thy
Doctor:Yes
User:hmm
Doctor:I was waiting for you to type in your query
User:ok
User:kind of sex query
Doctor:Sure
Doctor:Please go ahead
User:my wife is not allowing me to have inter course
User:with her
User:as she is very scared
User:about tht
Doctor:A lot of women are afraid, XXXXXXX
Doctor:Has she spoken to you about this?
User:i know
User:yes
Doctor:What is it that she is afraid of?
User:she is scared that if i enter anything she will get a pain
User:after speaking to her for almost 2 months
Doctor:Ok
User:she allowed me too touch her vagina
Doctor:Have you tried explaining that if you adequate lubrication, it will not be painful?
User:i cant even enter a one finger
Doctor:Its a psychological thing, XXXXXXX
User:it is very small
Doctor:When someone is scared, those muscles go into a spasm
User:ok
Doctor:In all probability, there would be nothing wrong with her
User:ok
User:y is her vagina so small
Doctor:Its not small
Doctor:You think about a room
User:yes
Doctor:If I push the walls on the side inwards, then the room gets smaller
Doctor:right?
User:i didnt get u
Doctor:Suppose there is a room
Doctor:and there are walls
Doctor:if i make the walls move towards each other
Doctor:then the room becomes smaller, right?
User:ok
User:i inserted one finger
Doctor:so her muscles in the side walls are contracting
Doctor:they are making it smaller
Doctor:as such there is nothing wrong
User:ok
Doctor:she is scared, thats why they are contracting
Doctor:There are couple of things we can do here
User:ok
User:like
Doctor:First, I think there needs to be a proper bond between both of you
Doctor:Talk to her , make her your friend
Doctor:Slowly build up the intimaacy
User:ok
Doctor:Second, there needs to be a lot of foreplay
Doctor:This will actually stimulate her and make her relaxed as well
Doctor:Take it one step at a time
User:i was doing this from 2 months
User:i was alo not in a hurry
User:but she is not keen on all this
Doctor:I dont think that the connection between the 2 of you is strong enough
User:ok
Doctor:Does she tell you everything she feels?
User:she is ok till foreplay
User:once i go down
User:she will not allow me to do any thing
Doctor:You can use a lubricant XXXXXXX
Doctor:That will make it relatively painless
User:what kind of lubricants
User:can i ask her to chat with
Doctor:Its available in a gel or a jelly form
User:u
Doctor:Yes
User:ok
Doctor:I am available XXXXXXX from 10:30-7:30
User:ok
Doctor:I can speak with her
User:ok
Doctor:I think I can address her concerns
User:that will do
User:tomorrow
Doctor:Ok
User:can i ask to call you
Doctor:You can raise a request for a call
Doctor:and ask for Dr. XXXXXXX
User:ok
Doctor:What is your wife's name?
User: XXXXXXX
Doctor:Ok
Doctor:Will make a note
Doctor:What time should we call?
User:tomorrow at 11
Doctor:ok
Doctor:will do that
User:but i will be in office
User:can i give her contact no
Doctor:We'll call her
Doctor:yes
User:0000
User:u can call her at 11.00
User:thx
User:doc
Doctor:Sure
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