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Tips to overcome social phobia - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   how can I help you
User :   hello doctor..
User :   this is xxxxx
User :   which dept do u specialize in
Doctor :   I am a Family Practitioner
Doctor :   I can help you
Doctor :   in any department
User :   i have query regarding social behavior
User :   i am finding it difficult to adjust in my in-laws family environment
User :   can i ask?
Doctor :   I can understand your problem. However, since I am a general practitioner i can help yoiu in my expertise
User :   ok...actually i am from family where there is lots of interaction within family members
User :   but here everyone seems to avoid talking....
User :   let alone socializing...not much meaningful talk about anything
User :   even my husband is of same behavior
User :   its not that they are bad at heart
User :   but why do they find socializing so difficult.
User :   i feel very out of place...
Doctor :   Ok you have adjustment difficulties
Doctor :   within the family
Doctor :   For Administrative and health purposes, Please provide these details -Age: Gender: Occupation: Location: Marital Status: Dependants: Yes/No
User :   i am 29.
User :   married 6 months back
User :   i am an xxxxx
User :   left my job to accompany my husband now
User :   am dependant now
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   First thing you have to know is communication
Doctor :   Try to communicate as many time as possible end to end
User :   only me and my husband stay alone now a days
User :   still i feel there is a gap
User :   in our thinking...
User :   he only seems to like being at home....
User :   does not even have a single friend......
User :   on telling so he says he does not feel like talking like
User :   I have seen him very formal talking to anyone except his family members
User :   I have heard of social phobia?
Doctor :   Does he have social phobia
User :   i guess so...
User :   is it curable?
User :   although being an xxxxx engineer, he seems so under confident while talking to aquantainces
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Did you try to communicate and be friendly with him
Doctor :   try to stay with him all the time
Doctor :   and bring laughter in him
Doctor :   Try to mould according to his behaviours then try to induce your interests into him later on
User :   yeah i do, but sometimes i get tensed to thinking of future
Doctor :   dont rush in collating with him
Doctor :   ask yoiur friends to come to your house
Doctor :   and slowy interact with them
Doctor :   Having a good support network
Doctor :   eeking out humor
User :   ok...but does bahavior change after reaching age of 30
User :   its quite mature age i think.
Doctor :   No his perceptions are something lone
Doctor :   Youcant blame him
Doctor :   Thinking positively about yourself
Doctor :   say to yourself that he can change according to yoiu
User :   and one thing i keep on loosing confidence on him
User :   seeing him so passive in initiating something
User :   he has never suggested any time about going about anywhr, except to one of his colleagues place ones or twice
Doctor :   Thats is why you ask your friends to come to your house
Doctor :   Let him believe that you are wonderful
Doctor :   and confident woman
Doctor :   you have to take all the measures
User :   should we consult doctor
Doctor :   to induce that enthu
Doctor :   in him
Doctor :   you can meet a counsellor certainly
Doctor :   Please fill this form I send, While I type the necessary information, and do Inform me when done.
User :   ok
Doctor :   You can use the search a doctor/hospital feature on our homepage to find a doctor in your area if Bangalore. If you wish, we can fix up your appointment with a doctor in your area.
User :   I stay abroad inxxxxx
Doctor :   ok
User :   do u have cunseller here ?
Doctor :   We have no counsellor
User :   ok....i will find out...
User :   how to put motivation and enthu in such person...
User :   he seems very de motivated...about doing anything
Doctor :   Social groups
Doctor :   Keep on chatting with him
Doctor :   and interact with him without him getting into some idle thought
User :   ok. doctor
Doctor :   Never stay away from him
Doctor :   apart from workplace
Doctor :   Engage him into
Doctor :   the activities you do
Doctor :   extracurricular
User :   shud i try to make him join clubs
User :   gym
User :   etc...
Doctor :   That is good idea
Doctor :   ask him to play a sprt
User :   he is good at TT. but he s so friendless
Doctor :   you play with him
Doctor :   and learn from him
User :   seems he does not keep in regular contact with them for some reason and lose contact
Doctor :   that will induce the bond between you
Doctor :   Ok
User :   but will he become more confident
Doctor :   yes
User :   with time anytime
Doctor :   you can see a counsellor
User :   will his attitude change
Doctor :   get tips from him
Doctor :   what is your role
User :   i will try
Doctor :   try to assist him in doing his role
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting Health care magic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service
User :   thanks doctor
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