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Tips for proper penis penetration, sex during periods, fertile period and contraception - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Excellent Posted in: Sexual Problems
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how can i help you?
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ok
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sure
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thanks a lot..
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i am done with my work..may I know ur name please
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ok
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I am Dr. XXXXXXXX Verma here
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please proceed with your health query
User :   Hi XXXXXXXX..i have a query relating sex problems..

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ok. you can proceed with your query
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i just got married a month back..and i and my husband do have physical relation
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ok
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but i am not sure if we have had intercourse or not..as i ddi not bleed any time we had it
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ok. i will need to ask a few more questions. can i proceed?
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yes please
Doctor :   could you describe the kind of relationship that you are having? have you had penetrative sex anytime till now? or is it only foreplay?
User :  
and at times i feel his penis is small in size to go inside properly..actually he tries to penetrate in
Doctor :   ok
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but i am not sure if its the full or just little inside
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what is his penis size in flaccid as well as erect stage?
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i m sure of the size..wat is flaccid?
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he does errects well and he comes during sex
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flaccid state is the normal size of penis without erection, that the men get on sexual excitement
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not sure of the size.
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ok i will simplify it for you to answer the question on size of penis, as this will help to answer your query
Doctor :   what is the comparative size of the penis compared to your hand/palm size
Doctor :   normally, indian men are known to have penis of 4 and 1/2 to 6 and 1/2 inches depending on the built of the person.
User :   without errection the penis is 80% of my palm

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which is enough to satisfy a women sexually
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ok
User :   well the main problem is i am not sure that what we are doing is intercourse or not..

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and not all women will have bleeding on their first time intercourse.
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his penis does goes in but not much
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the hymen in girls, breaks if the girl is physically active into sports, cycling etc.
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i am aware of those things
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so if you did not have the bleeding on your first intercourse, then do not worry, it might have broken earlier.
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ok, that is good.
User :   thats fine
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now coming to your query of penis not entering well inside
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yes.
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there are certain positions that are meant for deep penetration, and a man with small size penis can also satisfy with these
Doctor :   i will guide you with these.
User :   would appreciate ur help

Doctor :   1). Man on top positions where the woman has her legs raised towards her chest, this will allow deep penetration.
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as the further she raises her legs, the deeper he will be able to enter her.
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ok..
Doctor :   2).Rear entry sex positions also help in deep penetrations
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in this the woman has to be lying face down, with her buttocks raised
Doctor :   The Kama XXXXXXXX describes one way in which a couple can get into this position for sex:
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they can start by kneeling with the woman sitting astride her man, facing away from him.
Doctor :   Then she bends forward until he is able to enter her. She then stretches her legs backwards alongside his
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ok..
Doctor :   resting her chest on her arms which are folded under her, while she raises her buttocks with pillows
Doctor :   this helps in deep penetration and allows good satisfaction for women, as the sensitive points inside vagina are stimulated
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ok..
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there are other positions too , but that depends on th eflexibility of both the couples
User :  
well i am not very wet at times..can you please tell me what can helpful in such situations..
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although he does forepaly
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this can be solved
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if you have had adequate foreplay before penetration
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what all should be included in foreplay?
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you can ask him to stimulate the clitoris, which is very sensitive in women and leads to wetness.
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stimulation of breast and nipples also helps
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and even long deep kisses
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oh ok..
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foreplay also can be to explore each others body contour and expess love
User :   hmmm
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so anything that pleases you or him can be included in foreplay
User :   ok..
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but i am sort of hesitant to have oral sex..i am not sure if its normal
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which will enable you to achieve wetness, and thereby be ready for penetrative intercourse.
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if you are not comfortable, you can always explain it to him, he will understand.
User :   yes he understands but i feel may be men like that

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and it is normal to have oral sex, unles the penis in infected
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and i am not able to satisfy him
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or in case there in infection/mouth ulcers in th woman
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ok.
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most men are used to primitive reflexes, that is the oral sense to things when they are baby, which carries forward to this
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so it is not that you can satisfy him only through oral sex
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ok..then what are the other ways
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a good foreplay and a good penetrative sex is enough to satisfy a man
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what can a women do in foreplay
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i mean her part
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more than the sexual front, if you both are emotionally and mentally locked, that itself is satisfying for most men, even though their sex life may be only 5-10 mins a day
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a womans part in foreplay consists of
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kissing, deep kissing, gently stroking th chest, back, and thighs
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stroking buttocks, inner parts of thighs for her male counterpart
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ok..
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then comes the kissing and stimulation of the testicles and finally the penis.
User :   is it normal if a guy ejaculates more than once during sex?
Doctor :   yes it is normal
User :   ok..

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it depends on the amount of stimulation and satisfaction the guy has
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Did you follow what I said?
User :   is there a way to have intercourse without using precautions..without me conceiving?
Doctor :   it is difficult
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as the natural ways of contraception are not that successful. they have high failure rates.
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ok..so we need to use precautioons
Doctor :   you can try the fertle period method, but this too has failure rates.
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yes best is to use precautions to avoid conception
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ok..
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and the last quest
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can we have sex during periods
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yes please proceed, but first please fill the feedback form while i answer your next query
Doctor :   ok
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i will help you in this
User :   i have filled in the feedback form

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thanks
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but with protection
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you can have sex during periods
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yes we do use precautions..
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as the chances of transmission of infections will be higher
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ok..
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there is a risk factor of women having pelvic inflammatory disease if they have sex during periods
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which can be cause for infertility later on.
Doctor :   A woman is also more likely to pass on other blood-borne diseases such as hepatitis- B or C to a partner during her period
User :   oh is it..i never knew
Doctor :   Also, a woman is more likely to develop yeast or bacterial infections like candidiasis or bacterial vaginosis because the vagina's pH during menstruation is less acidic.
User :   but in case he is using condom then the disease will not be transmitted right?

Doctor :   during periods, the best is to have only foreplay, that will help to ease the period pain for women.
Doctor :   yes, then the disease will not be transmittted
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ok..
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avoid oral sex during periods.
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yes..
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and the last question
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sometimes th blood during menstruation is known to cause irritation to penis
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yes please proceed, but first please fill the feedback form while i answer your next query
Doctor :   yes please proceed with your query
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how will i gwt to know if at any time i have conceived..
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i mean should i go to a doc immediately i skip my periods
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you will have a missed period
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yes you should go, else check pregnancy test at home
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how many days should i wait from the expected day
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using a urine pregnancy kit
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these lits can pick up the hormone within 15 days of conception
User :   inacse it happens that i have conceived is having an abortion fine?
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i mean will it cause me problems in conceiving later on?
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usually i dont recommend abortion in the first conception, as i have had many patients coming to me for infertility issues, who have a definite history of abortion in first conception.
Doctor :   so if you want to avoid conception
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ok..so that needs to be taken care of..
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use a contraceptive method that bes suits you
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that best suits you.
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and if in case you do concieve, continue the pregnancy
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and go for copper-T after delivery of the baby
User :   ok...but there are times when the condoms sort of come out..and the fluid falls
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for contraception for the next baby
User :   ok

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then there is high chances of getting pregnant in those cases
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it will also depend on the day
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of your menstrual cycle
User :   what are the most fertile period?

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if this happen during the fertile period or the ovulation time, then you are sure to concieve
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i will explain
User :  
i mean the fertile days of periodic cycle
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the day you start your periods is counted as DAY 1
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yes
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so starting from that day, if you are having a menstrual cycle of 28 days, then fertile period
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wil be between 8th to 14th day.
User :   ok..

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what is the length of your menstrual cycle?
User :   26-28 days

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ok
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so your fertile period wil be between 8th to 14th day.
User :   fine then..i would take care on those days
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ok
User :   thanks for answering my queries..this was really helpful
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have a good day
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Is there any thing else I can help you with?
User :   thats all for now

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User :   It was a great chat with you
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do you have a clinic where in i can meet you
Doctor :   no i dont have any private practice right now
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