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Suspicion in personal relations leading to mental stress - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   hi doc
Doctor :   Hi
User :   I'm XXXXXXXX from XXX
Doctor :   This is Dr. XXX
User :   my prob is that i always confused, sad and emotional
Doctor :   How may I help u?
User :   i've been in mental stress from past few years
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   what other symptoms do u have?
User :   i at time forget what i'm doin for what i'm doin and all
Doctor :   How is ur sleep?
Doctor :   How old r U?
User :   i am being engaged to the person i love and the prob is that he's very possesive about me and now he doubts me for each and everything
User :   it makes me feel sad
User :   and now i not able to any thing cuz everything is already fixed
User :   i sleep more than 6 hrs
Doctor :   How long ago r u married?
User :   and i am 21 years old
User :   i'm not married yet. going to be married next year.
Doctor :   I am sorry u said u r engaged?
User :   yea. i'm just engaged to that person
Doctor :   Please be patient with my words.
Doctor :   I really want to open my hear for u
Doctor :   Many men r possessive
Doctor :   he loves u so much from that they get hese pssessiveness
Doctor :   take it easy
Doctor :   take it positively
User :   but this person he keeps on doubting me
Doctor :   But doubt /suspiciousness is not good from his side
Doctor :   I know
Doctor :   tthat is what I am going to XXX
User :   i always confused
Doctor :   For that,, u needs to sit down and explain
Doctor :   many times
User :   i dont know what is right for me
Doctor :   Be assetive.
Doctor :   Tell me him , my love, I am ur, but i am a human being, so i have to inteact with people. so do not suspect me.
Doctor :   keep telling him many times
Doctor :   Be honest with everything
User :   i have told that to him many times
User :   but he just cant understand me.
Doctor :   Usually people grow out of these problem, 1-2 yrs after marriage
Doctor :   i know
Doctor :   but till that time u need to be patient so that u dont break with him
Doctor :   sadness, emotional r natural
Doctor :   unless they interfere with ur function
User :   ok
Doctor :   My besty bet is ..
User :   i had a job and now i have resigned from because of him
Doctor :   spend some money on counselling with Psycholoist before marriage
Doctor :   Lord bless u
User :   it was like he says it no prob womens goin for job
Doctor :   dont get destarcted my him
Doctor :   no
User :   but i should talk to men, see with men and all
Doctor :   be assetive with ur udeas
Doctor :   maitain self esteem
Doctor :   but be humble, respectful , loving
Doctor :   byt maitain indivuality
Doctor :   Tell him clearly
Doctor :   Everything works with discussions
User :   what should i tell him?
Doctor :   if discussions does not work counsellinh work
User :   how am i suppose to tell him?
Doctor :   Write down what mistake he on paper/book
Doctor :   Tell him my love u did this,,u suspected me. but that is not good. if u dont suspect me i get more respect on u.i love u more. but by suspecting , u r making me feel bad
Doctor :   Ask what are his expectations?
Doctor :   write down?
User :   its like hes controling me. he wants me to walk like he wants to be, talk like he wants to be everything as he thinks only
User :   does'nt want to know what my feelings is
Doctor :   Write down ur expectation and give it to him
Doctor :   Be patient
Doctor :   Hold ur marriage
User :   and the other side its my parents
Doctor :   see him . try to convince him. scare him. if u dont change the behavir, i may have to stop u marrying
User :   i have never seen them happy and smiling
Doctor :   forget abt parents
Doctor :   pthat is a differewnt issue
User :   they are always on war
Doctor :   Alright I gave u very good counseeling how to handle ur emotions and relations with ur spouce
Doctor :   I told u the best strategies
Doctor :   Is there any thing?
User :   But that guy he wont leave me
Doctor :   hwat will he do?
Doctor :   Does he kill u?
Doctor :   or love u?
User :   he says he'll go and die
Doctor :   let him die
Doctor :   it is his mistake
Doctor :   u dont want to spoil ur life
User :   and hes the only son in that family if he dies, i'll be responsible for it
Doctor :   I don't know what u r talking
Doctor :   BE assertive in telling ur feelings and emotions
User :   He is the only Child in his family
Doctor :   if that does not wotk
Doctor :   Please it is too extenasive
Doctor :   I give u medical opinion
Doctor :   and counselling
User :   if anything happens like suicide or anything i'll be responsible for it
User :   ok
Doctor :   no
User :   can i have ur personel ID?
User :   so, what should i do now
User :   ok
User :   ok
Doctor :   if u have any problems I will email u
User :   ok.. i get headache at time
Doctor :   BE in touch
User :   it might maybe thinking too much about this right?
Doctor :   y
User :   ok. can i have your email ID?
Doctor :   where u live?
User :   XXX
User :   XXX
Doctor :   OK
Doctor :   Alright please follw what I say
Doctor :   be in touch
Doctor :   OK
User :   ok
Doctor :   Thank you for consulting
Doctor :   Bless u
User :   Thank you doc
Doctor :   Have a nice day.
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