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Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :  
How can I help you?
User :   hi i am in a dilemma
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   may i know your qualifications pls
Doctor :   I am a General Practitioner and have done MBBS
User :   ok
User :   see i have done my mbbs too
Doctor :  
You can proceed with your query
User :   n have some problem
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
You may proceed with it
User :   i want to do md
User :   but cnt study
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :  
May I know your qualification?
User :   exams are just around corner
User :   mbbs done
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
Thats good
Doctor :   How is your preparation?
User :   not quite good
User :   just ok
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
Its the same with many
Doctor :  
So you need not worry much I guess
User :   ya i know
User :   i am worrying
User :   cant help it
Doctor :  
Since when have you been preparing for it?
User :   2 yrs
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
Where are you from?
User :   del
Doctor :  
Fine
Doctor :  
So Aiims is just around
User :   ya
Doctor :  
Best of luck for the same
Doctor :  
Now what do you want to know mainly?
User :   the reason that i am not able to study
User :   is my brother
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   he doesnt study at all
Doctor :   Ok
User :   he failed in his class
User :   2 times
Doctor :   Oh
Doctor :  
and what is the effect of it on you now?
User :   cant read or write english or hindi
User :   well
User :   he is into cricket
Doctor :   Ok

User :   hs joined a coaching for it
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   but doent seem promising to me
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   i dont knw wht he's gonna do in future
User :   my dad earns fine
User :   but is a spendthrift
Doctor :  
So you are anxious about his future and this is affecting you, right?
User :   cant save any money
User :   not exactly
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   i am telling u wait
Doctor :  
Sure
User :   mty father hasnt saved any money for himself
User :   for his future
User :   my bro doesnt do anythng
User :   he just stays at home
User :   he doesnt even know anythng
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   i love my father a lot
Doctor :  
Fine
User :   he is heart patient
Doctor :  
Oh
User :   for md i might have to
User :   go to a far away place
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   and i my age is such tht
User :   i worry tht wht if i get married
Doctor :  
Yes, I understand
User :   and stay in some distant place
User :   i wont b able to help thm
User :   wht should i do
User :   my bro doent listen to any1
Doctor :  
May I know your age and gender if you dont mind?
User :   25 f
Doctor :  
Also I would like to know your brother's age and qualification
User :   19
User :   doing 12th frm open school
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :  
And your father's age and occupation?
User :   55 engineer
Doctor :  
Good
Doctor :  
How about your mother? and is there anyone else in the family?>
User :   mother housewife
User :   no 1 else
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
Now there are solutions to all problems
Doctor :  
You need to think strategically about it
User :   like?
Doctor :  
Coming to you first
Doctor :  
You have apprehension that
Doctor :  
you might get a seat somewhere outside and need to leave home
Doctor :  
But try for a seat in Delhi only
User :   it's v difficult to get a seat in delhi
Doctor :  
As that is capital of Medical education as well
Doctor :  
Yes I understand
User :   almost next to impossible
Doctor :  
to get it there
Doctor :  
But needs to have a focus
Doctor :  
So, you try your level best
User :   i dont think so
Doctor :  
and who knows, luck can favour you
User :   only top 100 or so from 60,000
User :   get a seat in del
User :   and i know my limitations
Doctor :  
Yes, it is diffucult
Doctor :  
but dream for it
Doctor :   Which subject do you want to pursue?
User :   one should not aim for things which are out of reach of his capabilities
User :   skin,paeds,radio
Doctor :  
Hmm, high end subjects
User :   pls tell somethng else
User :   yup
User :   tht's why
Doctor :   Try for it
Doctor :  
and think of alternatives as well
Doctor :  
as the possibilities are both positive or negative
Doctor :   Alternative is a DNB
User :   hey i am trying my best but
Doctor :  
which you can do it from Delhi itself
User :   i dont wanna do dnb
User :   my preference is md only
Doctor :  
I know it has certain limitations
Doctor :  
But one needs to compromise in life for the sake of family in certain occasions
Doctor :  
Even if you get an MD Radio
Doctor :  
in a different place, you wont be happy
User :   i will be
Doctor :  
instead you will b worrying about your home only
User :   but tht's what i want
User :   for myself
Doctor :   But are you ready to go out?
User :   i am
User :   but what about my family
Doctor :  
Then you will have to stop such worries
Doctor :  
right now and concentrate on your prep
Doctor :  
But you should not be a drop out for this sake
User :   sometimes i think why me
Doctor :   Nothing like that
Doctor :  
Your problem is not the biggest in the world
User :   But you should not be a drop out for this sake
means?
Doctor :  
Many people have worse problems
User :   rite
Doctor :  
Like you worrying about home even after getting a seat in different place
Doctor :  
and then not able to cope there
Doctor :  
so ultimately it will result in a dropout
User :   what to do?
Doctor :  
So that should not happen
Doctor :   Next is if you get a seat
Doctor :  
you will b paid stipend
User :   ya
Doctor :  
and you can help your family
Doctor :  
to some extent atleast
User :   hey i am not worried about tht
Doctor :  
And your father will work till 60 I suppose
User :   i am worried tht if i go there and if i like some1 and get married
User :   i wont b able to help them
Doctor :  
Before his retirement if you complete your MD, it would be very helpful
Doctor :  
Why think in that line
User :   it's post marriage tht i am worrying
Doctor :  
Even after marriage, you can help him
Doctor :  
Why not?
Doctor :  
I have seen many people doing that
User :   how come
Doctor :  
Nowawdays people have developed
User :   girls?
Doctor :  
and do not object to the wife helping her parents
Doctor :  
Yes
User :   but depends on the person na
Doctor :  
Yes, that is in your hands
Doctor :  
You will need to select a Good person
User :   no the husband
Doctor :  
So that you are happy and your family is secure
Doctor :  
Yes thats what I mean you need to select a right partner
User :   i cant really distinguish between good and bad person
Doctor :  
Talk to him about the issues
Doctor :  
and tell him what u want to do to your family in future
Doctor :  
He will surely accept
User :   but love doesnt happen aftr thinking
User :   it just happens
Doctor :  
Yes
Doctor :  
But you will b able to understand a person in that
User :   what to do then?
Doctor :  
and then if you select him
Doctor :  
even tho he does not accept your concerns
Doctor :  
then it would be selfishness
Doctor :  
So rule it our
Doctor :   'out
User :   means?
Doctor :  
Have concern for your family all time
Doctor :   and let your first priority be them
Doctor :  
Have that in mind and then proceed with your marriage
User :   but are there people like this still alive
Doctor :  
If you keep on thinking about ifs and buts
Doctor :  
there wont be any progress in life
Doctor :  
Which people?
User :   Have concern for your family all time
Doctor: and let your first priority be them
User :   such people
Doctor :  
Yes there are
User :   some people told me tht
User :   after marriage a guy wouldnt want his wife to think much about her parents
User :   she should concentrate on her new family only
Doctor :   Nothing like that
User :   hey he was my senior
Doctor :  
You should have a Wider spectrum and be broadminded
Doctor :  
So dont listen to it
User :   he hs seen world
Doctor :   Everyone has seen it
User :   one of my frnd also told me ths
Doctor :  
So come out of it
Doctor :  
Be a better human being
User :   what"?
Doctor :  
Need not have to follow them
User :   but they r guys na
Doctor :  
Others are also
Doctor :  
There are both kind of guys and gals
User :   what r u saying?
Doctor :  
and u need to be the right one for your life and family
Doctor :  
and Pick the right person
Doctor :  
It all depends on you
User :   i jst didnt understood
User :   can u pls retell what u wrote
User :   in a diffrent way
Doctor :  
Like there are both types of boys and girls
Doctor :  
who think in terms of this issue
Doctor :  
So the people whom you have spoken belong to one category
User :   so u r saying tht there r people ie guys
Doctor :  
there is another category as well
User :   who dont mind tht thier wife helps her family
User :   after marriage
Doctor :  
Yes, I had mentioned that in the very beginning only
User :   ok
Doctor :  
Now try to concentrate on the task at hand
User :   so it means tht it will not be wrong or selfish if i like some1 and marry him
Doctor :  
and succeed in it
Doctor :  
No
User :   no?
Doctor :   Means it wont bother
User :   ok
User :   and i can always
User :   help my family after marriage too
User :   ?
Doctor :  
Sure
User :   i just need to marry a guy who will not object to it n will b understanding
Doctor :  
Yes
User :   ok
Doctor :  
If he truly loves you, he will agree
User :   now i will study
User :   ok thanx
Doctor :   Good
User :   but 1 thng
Doctor :  
Please fill the feedback form say done when done.
User :   done
Doctor :   Sure
Doctor :  
You can continue
User :   what if i will not b able to help thm
Doctor :   Dont think of such negative things right now

Doctor :  
Be positive and continue
User :   but this thought does come in to my mind
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
But try to avoid it
Doctor :  
and concentrate on your studies
User :   but how
User :   when i am studying
Doctor :  
right now
User :   it's all fine
Doctor :  
Focus on studies
User :   all of a sudden in my mind ths thought comes
Doctor :  
I would suggest you to take the help of a Clinical Psychologist as well
User :   and i stop studying
Doctor :  
If you dont mind
User :   is my matter tht worst?
Doctor :  
No
Doctor :  
But need not be
Doctor :  
Take help of the resources availab
Doctor :  
I am not telling you to go to a Psychiatrist
Doctor :  
and take some medications right now
User :   like
Doctor :  
Just a clinical Psychologist
Doctor :  
who will provide Counselling
Doctor :  
and change the pattern of thinking
User :   but dont counsellors start at once n dont stop
User :   they continue on giving sessions
Doctor :  
yes
User :   then
Doctor :  
It would be a gradual change
Doctor :  
For 3 months, usually
User :   it takes at least 3-4 months
Doctor :   Yes,
User :   but i dont have time
Doctor :  
you are right
Doctor :  
Try it
Doctor :  
It will help
Doctor :  
Have confidence
Doctor :   You can give better quality time for your studies
Doctor :  
rather than just hours
User :   ok
Doctor :   Is there any thing else I can help you with?
User :   no thanx
Doctor :  
I would request you to fill the feedback form
Doctor :  
as we would end the session
User :   i have filled it already
Doctor :  
Would you mind to?
Doctor :  
If you agree I will send it
User :   ok
Doctor :  
No, we do it at the end of the session as well
User :   done
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