Suffering from pe post marriage. Herbal medicines ineffective. Recommendations? - Online Doctor Chats
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How are you doing?
I am doing good, thanks.
This is my first time having live chat with a DOC...thanks for your time and interest.
I am inquiring about a very common problem which I am facing now, post my marriage.
I am married for a year now and have P.E
have tried lot of medication all Herbal but I see no improvement still and am worried
There are certain drugs which have been found to be useful
They are called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors
so would you recommend I try those drugs? any side effect
But they are not major
But before that, its a problem that you need to sort out with your partner
There should be no misunderstandings
You would need to work on your relationship
what should I be doing, we have spoken about it but I always run into this problem. It is terrible feeling but she is very co-operative and understands the situation
You will then to need to look into yourself
Do you fear something? like failure to perform?
In most situations I don't fear but at times if am nervous or get anxious I fail
You would need to control the anxiety
and let it come natrally
my anxiety and excitement leads to this problem I think
I am done in 5 seconds at times and XXXXXXX can delay it for a 1 minute or so
They will help
we are planning to start a family and am not sure if this is causing the problem
You would need to reduce the stress
Its important both of you really understand and connect with each other before you start a family
It would be great if you can send me the report
We can then discuss it better
it is few months old now, is that ok?
If a repeat is required, I'll tell you to get it done
sure, which id do i have to send the report?
Send it to YYYY@YYYY
I guess it is with the herbal doctor, I need to check with hime.
In the subject, write attention to doctor XXXXXXX
Ok sounds good. I will send it
Till then, reduce the anxiety levels
so shall I start with this drug now or later?
First reduce the anxiety levels
It is the most effective intervention
I have tried but have always failed, will keep trying
Thanks for your time Doctor
try pranayam first
Look up the videos on youtube
I am not into yoga....
Its not yoga
Its a bretahing exercise
sure I will do that... is Diet also a solution?
You should just be having a nutrtitious, well balanced diet
All 3 meals on time
I have stopped working out due to work pressure, I plan to start the same
Atleast 50 minutes daily
5 times a week
This much of exercise is needed
I use to but due to work timings was not possible
try at home
any tips for my wife so she understands
Walk around your house
Just try talking patiently to her
And put the spice back in your relationship
first 6 months of marriage was very difficult and I thought we'll end up separating
Thats what most people think
things are getting better now after a year and she understands me well but my problem of PE has not improved at all
I feel terrible and sorry for her and that am not able to satisfy
I think you need to give your relationship some more time
thats more important before looking at a family
I completely agree... and am doing all that I can to cure this problem and be normal
The problem will go away once both of you connect
I can assure you that
Its like erectile dysfunction
I hope so too
With most people, its due to a misunderstanding
Is there a standard rule or time needed for climax in love making? I get variety of answers while researching online
It usually varies between 15-20 minutes
But it is highly variable
Depends on too many things
I can't even last for a minute
No its not
Stop punishing yourself
As I said its variable
It can vary from 5 -6 minutes to anything
so for now to get started.... I need to work out, do pranayam and reduce my anxiety levels
and make your wife feel special
anything else that I need to focus on? how many times a week should we meet?
sure, I will do that
as many times as you want
really??? I was under impression that only twice or thrice a week
There is no limit as such
and moreover I can't as I feel completely tiered and dead
Pranayam will make you really energetic
You'll feel an instant difference
ok will get started with that ASAP
Do you have any more concerns that I can answer?
Thanks much Doctor, it great chatting with you and to learn so much which I was not aware of
i hope he has my report to send you over
Thanks for consulting me
if not will get a new one done
Please send it across
Thanks and have a great day... much appreciate your help
Bye for now
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