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Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Excellent Posted in: Sexually Transmitted Diseases
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Doctor :   hi
Doctor :  
how can i help u
Doctor :  
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User :   Hi Doctor
Doctor :   hi are yu there
Doctor :  
please proceed
User :   I am fine Doctor, How are you
Doctor :  
User :   yes Doctor
User :   are you a sexologist
Doctor :  
yes proceed
Doctor :  
yes i am sex expert
Doctor :  
i will answer your query
User :   I have some problems related to sexual obsession and would lie to know how to get ri of this recirrent sexual thoughts or if it is a normal state of human behaviour
User :   rid
User :   I am single / male / 29
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
can i ask few Q
User :   yes sure
Doctor :  
wats your occupation
User :   I am an Software Engineer
Doctor :  
can you explain your sexual thoughts
User :   mostly realted to normal sexual activity
Doctor :   ok
User :   I was also addicted of online porn for last many years
Doctor :  
wats your sexual oreintation
User :   but now Ia m finding it difficut to focus on my work
Doctor :  
ok
User :   I am not in any sexual relationship as of now
Doctor :  
did yu have sex before
User :   My marriage is away 2 years down
User :   yes only once
Doctor :   ok

User :   but I did not enjoyed it
Doctor :  
first sex is not pleasurable to most of them
Doctor :   due to in expereince
User :   Now my problem is my focus is completely gone
Doctor :  
fear and anxiety
User :   I feel horny all the day
User :   with no sex partner finding it difficut to manage
User :   this is affecting my work
Doctor :   how many times do yu masturbate
Doctor :  
in a week
User :   two times daily
Doctor :   ok

User :   sometime more
User :   masturbation does not satisfy me completely as feel the need of physical partner
Doctor :  
after first sex, did yu have sex with any girl
User :   no
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
is the erection normal
User :   I a very selective in going with exual relationship
User :   yes
Doctor :   is the ejaculation normal
User :   yes
Doctor :   ok
User :   but in my first sex ejaculation was very quick
Doctor :  
even with out stimulation is your penis get erected
User :   due to fear and anxiety
User :   no it does not
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
do yu smoke
User :   I need to think aout sexual activity
User :   no I dont smoe, vegeterian
User :   smoke
Doctor :  
or consume alcohol
User :   yes I was on alchol
Doctor :   ok
User :   not addicted but it was above normal
Doctor :  
when yu get excited or see porn movies
User :   though I have left it now almost
Doctor :  
the stimulation and huger is more for sex
User :   yes
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
how many hours do yu sleep
User :   8 hours
User :   sleep is good
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :   wats your wt and ht
User :   but sometime I feel horny in the mid night
User :   and also in the morning after I get up
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
wats your ht and wt
User :   85 kg , 5 feet 7 inch
Doctor :  
are yu even horny when you see girls
User :   yes sometime
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :   since how many yrs are yu masturbating
User :   more than 10 years
User :   maybe more
Doctor :  
since how many months are yu experiencing these symptoms
User :   Almost last six months
Doctor :   due to start of masturbation at an early age
User :   It has aggravated more
Doctor :  
and loss of sexual education
Doctor :  
these problems are getting worst
User :   ok
User :   yes I understand
Doctor :   do yu do any exercises

User :   No
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
do yu have any friends like this
User :   I have friends
User :   mostly male friends
User :   I dont feel very comfortable in presence of girls
Doctor :   friends who make more arousive
Doctor :  
ok
User :   Due to see here something abnormal with me
User :   or is this a normal human behaviour
User :   I am confused
Doctor :  
do any of the your friends know about this
User :   No
Doctor :   ok
User :   I am shy, resrved , professional and quiet
Doctor :  
let me explain this to you
User :   please
Doctor :  
masturbation is normal process
Doctor :  
every men masturbate
User :   yes I know
Doctor :  
even married men masturbate
User :   ok
Doctor :  
but masturbation should not be addictive
User :   yes
Doctor :  
to ease stress and tension in few instances is fine
Doctor :  
but not addiction
User :   yes
Doctor :  
Yu need a good company of friends
User :   ok
Doctor :   so your think on sex is reduced
User :   ok
User :   Could it be also due to some harmonal problem or any other mental cause
Doctor :  
how many times u watch porn movies in a week
User :   I have now left it completely
Doctor :  
wat type of porn movies do yu prefer
User :   straight
Doctor :   thats good
User :   before I used to watch a lot of porn on internet
Doctor :   watching a porn movies will arouse
User :   this went on for many years
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
when did yu stop
User :   just a week ago
User :   installed fileter on my pc
Doctor :   just a week

Doctor :   ok
User :   no pr on my pc now
Doctor :  
thats good
User :   porn
User :   But this horniness and sexual thought have become obsession
Doctor :  
make sure yu dont watch porn movies from any other source
User :   yes I will
User :   try my best
Doctor :  
need to avoid porno graphic pics and materials that stimulate
Doctor :  
need to concentrate on other works
User :   I have left completely alchol and porn to improve my life . Talking to you was next step.
Doctor :  
Concentrate on good works that you are intrested
Doctor :  
wats are your hobbies
User :   But do you think if marriage is the solution for all this problem. Please advice.
Doctor :   i will advice you

User :   reading novels. playing Tennis
Doctor :  
let me completely asses you
Doctor :  
ok
User :   sure
Doctor :  
how many times do yu play tennis
Doctor :  
in a week
User :   everyday in office
User :   Table tennis
User :   not on weekends
Doctor :   thats good

Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
exercise is very important for you
User :   ok
Doctor :   first and the foremost
User :   yes
Doctor :  
this type of sexual behavior is normal
User :   ok.
Doctor :   nothing to worry
User :   thanks
Doctor :  
yu need be mentally relaxed
User :   ok
Doctor :  
needs sexual education
Doctor :  
do yu have night falls
User :   really
User :   no
User :   I used to have long long back
Doctor :  
thats good to hear
User :   almost never since last 4,5 years as I remember
Doctor :   why sex
Doctor :  
its for giving birth
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and for satisifaction
User :   I understand
User :   but I feel it is human need
Doctor :   every men and women needs that
Doctor :  
but behind it
User :   ok
Doctor :  
before marriage only yu need to have a control
Doctor :  
so yu enjoy your married life
User :   I completely understqand this
Doctor :  
yes its a ideal age for you get married
User :   yes
Doctor :  
i will advice you to go for marriage
User :   I am trying my best to get married
User :   but parents want me to wait for more
User :   so that I can earn better
User :   in next 2 years
Doctor :  
as the sexual hormones are high at this age
User :   yes
Doctor :   it would be ideal if you marry at least by 30 yrs
Doctor :   not after that
User :   really . O . But why not after 30 years. Could please tell me. thx
Doctor :  
yes the age difference will be there
User :   oh yes
Doctor :  
the sexual hormones decline
User :   ok
Doctor :  
as the age advances
User :   ok
Doctor :  
other thoughts for having sex is more
User :   ok
Doctor :  
its good to have a baby by at least 30 -32 yrs
User :   yes I understand .
User :   So you think there is nothing wring with me now. and I should make myself busy in other activities
Doctor :   the sexual excitement also reduces, you feel more mature after 32 or 33 yrs
Doctor :  
no nothing to worry
Doctor :  
its normal for most of the men
Doctor :   in your case you had sex only once
Doctor :  
and that too was hurry
User :   could there me a possibility of any harmonal disturbance
Doctor :  
so you are seeking for a better sex
User :   ok
User :   could there be a possiblity of increase in male testrone or any other harmone
Doctor :   no way

Doctor :  
how is the beard development
User :   quite fast
User :   hair grows very fast
Doctor :   how is the development of hair in pubis
User :   normal
Doctor :  
is the penis size adequate
User :   I think so
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :   testosterone levels are nomal
Doctor :  
normal
User :   ok
Doctor :  
not to bother about that
Doctor :   exercise will help u to reduce the stress and tension
User :   Actually one of the doctor has asked me to go for a testrone check. I was not sure about since he was not expert
Doctor :   you had explained your problem to him
User :   yes
Doctor :  
no need of testosterone levels
Doctor :  
it will not help in any way
Doctor :  
few behavioral modifications
User :   Tests: Haemogram, Serum Testosterone, Random Blood Sugar,SGPT, Serum Creatinine, Urine Routine. No need to go empty stomach. These samples can be given any time.
My consultation and advise charges would be Rs.Five Thousand only (Rs.5000/--)
User :   This were the test he told me to undergo
User :   It was online consultation only
User :   I did not know why he sugested this
Doctor :   serum testosterone if on higher side no issue at all
Doctor :  
it should not be lower side
User :   ok
Doctor :  
this can result in infertility
Doctor :   testosterone is a sex hormone, its not only for sex
Doctor :  
its for other things also
User :   ok
Doctor :  
those test advised is a complete health check up
Doctor :   its good to get it done atleast once
Doctor :  
but not there
User :   ok
Doctor :  
in any clinic or nursing home
Doctor :  
it will just cost 1000 rs
User :   ok
Doctor :  
no need of testosterone levels
User :   ok
Doctor :  
its the main test for infertility
User :   ok
Doctor :  
i will advice you few good exercises
User :   yes please
Doctor :  
which will help u to reduce the wt
User :   ok
Doctor :  
and mental relaxation
User :   ok
Doctor :  
and strong mind
Doctor :  
to tackle these issue
Doctor :  
is that fine
Doctor :   there are 2 types of exercises
User :   I have this very personal question to you and hope you would advice me in best of my interest.
Doctor :  
yes proceed
User :   Do you think if I engage in a more frequent physical sex with a partner I would be more relaxed and focused and will not have obessve compulsive troubling sexual thoughts any more. I would e ale to work more effectively.
User :   able
Doctor :   having sex with your wife is fine and good

User :   Yes I understand
Doctor :  
need to limit with her only
Doctor :  
yes if you engage in body sex and penetrative sex your urge for this will reduce
User :   I am afraid of HIV ,AIDS and so many sexual disease. I can not take any risk
Doctor :  
yes you are right
Doctor :   after having sex with one sex partner
User :   yes
Doctor :  
if the urge increases will yu go for second partner
User :   No
Doctor :  
at the time of sex, we are not in our control, any thing can happen
User :   I would like to be faithful
Doctor :  
sexually transmitted disease are high
Doctor :  
thats good
User :   yes Doctor
Doctor :  
now you are going in a right path
Doctor :  
its good you have quit alcohol
User :   I am a good person but I chose wrong path
Doctor :  
its good you have stopped watching porn movies
User :   yes I know
User :   Feeling much much better after I have quit
Doctor :  
it would be good if yu reduce masturbation also
User :   It was a complete time waste
User :   I want to but sexual urges are qite high
Doctor :   ok
User :   so I have to engage in that otherwise I feel very uneasy
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   do yu have any sexual queries
User :   Doctor it was really very comforting talking to you here
Doctor :  
or shall i proceed to exercise part
User :   I hope I have not offended you any time and maintained the decorum at my best
User :   yes please
Doctor :   ok

Doctor :  
wats your ht
Doctor :  
wt
User :   85 kg and 5 feet 7 inch tall
Doctor :  
ok as per your ht and wt
User :   yes I am overweight
Doctor :  
your body mass index is 29
Doctor :  
its obese
User :   really
User :   oh my God
Doctor :  
your ideal wt is 72- 74 kgs
User :   I know I need to reduce
User :   yes
Doctor :  
so yu need to reduce 7-9 kgs of wt
Doctor :  
diet is ideal for you to reduce the wt
User :   yes I need to
User :   ok
Doctor :  
are yu
Doctor :   i will prepare a ideal diet chart for you
User :  
User :   Thankyou
Doctor :  
and send it to your mail ID within 24 hrs
User :   I appriciate and promise to go exactly as per diet chart as much possible
Doctor :  
mail ID please
User :   thanks
User :  
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
next is exercise
User :   yes please
Doctor :  
do yu prefer gym exercise or aerobic exercise
User :   gym
Doctor :   ok
User :   I also know Yoga but never do it. Learned it few years back
Doctor :  
gym exercise like cycling, treadmill or cross runners would be ideal for you
User :   ok
Doctor :   to reduce your wt
User :   ok
Doctor :  
need to do exercise atleast for 1 hr for atleast 5 days in a week
User :   ok
User :   I will
Doctor :  
brisk walking is a ideal exercise for wt reduction and also for to reduce tummy
User :   ok
Doctor :  
do yu wats brisk walking
User :   sometime but not regular
Doctor :   do it for atleast 3-4 days
User :   ok
Doctor :  
for 30 mins
User :   ok
Doctor :   the topic that we have discussed is confindential
User :   yes I would really appriciate and completely trust you.
Doctor :  
it will not even be discussed with other doctors also
Doctor :  
please fill the feed back form and comment box
User :   Thankyou .
User :   Many many thanks Doctor.
Doctor :  
Thanks for consulting HealthcareMagic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
User :   It was very comforting taling to you here
Doctor :   take care bye for now
User :   sure i will do.
User :   bye
Doctor :  
bye for now
Doctor :  
good nite
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