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Sexual arousal disorder - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
User :   hi.....can i continue the previous chat
Doctor :  
Yes.
User :   yes i feel its psycological tooo
Doctor :   I will ask a few more questions before giving you a proper advise, is that fine.
User :   yes
Doctor :   May i know your occupation?
User :   working in bpo
Doctor :  
Ok.
Doctor :  
Are you married?
User :   no
User :   after all the pain in life i have decided not to get married..
Doctor :  
Dont worry, most of these problems are only temporary.
User :   hopefully...
Doctor :  
Now i shall explain to you.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
As i was telling you the most common cause is psychological
Doctor :  
secondary to the stress you have.
User :   yes
Doctor :   Most often when you can learn to manage your stress, tension and anxiety these problems will slowly resolve.
Doctor :   secondly you can get these tests done.
User :   Ok
Doctor :  
Check your Hemoglobin status, and blood sugar level.
User :   long back when i checked it was around 8
Doctor :  
You can have these problems if you are anaemic or have abnormal sugar levels.
Doctor :  
8 is low.
Doctor :  
May be that is adding to the exertion, causing these disturbances.
Doctor :  
have you followed?
User :   yes
User :   ya.. i feel i am anaemic. i dont have any kind of excerise to my body as well
Doctor :  
I would advise you to recheck it if the test was done more than 2 months ago.
Doctor :  
You need good diet to increase the Hb levels.
User :   ok. will get it done
Doctor :  
Follow a well balanced diet.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
You can look for foods that are good source of iron
User :   i eat 3 chappaties for lunch and dinner
Doctor :  
Like ragi, pomegrante, apple and other.
Doctor :   Add ragi to your diet.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
You can have chappathis made of ragi.
User :   ya...
Doctor :  
It is a very good source of iron.
User :   fine
Doctor :  
You can take iron supplements also if your hb is 8 or less than that.
Doctor :  
Have you followed?
User :   yes doctor..
Doctor :  
Next try to mange your tension and stresses.
User :   how can i manage my psycological disturbence
Doctor :  
Most often the thought that i will fail in sex causes this problem.
User :   ok
User :   can i confess sumthing. hope it be between us doctor
Doctor :  
It is not that you have some psychological problem.
Doctor :   Yes,
Doctor :  
Go ahead, this will be kept confidential.
User :   after my dad passed away in 2001, i broke up with my guy
Doctor :  
Ok.
User :   my dad's death has effected me..
User :   when to slight depression as well
User :   later came to bangalore and got a job
Doctor :   Depression is also one of the causes for this.
Doctor :  
If you cannot manage it by yourself
User :   i get easily attached to friends and people who show a little love towards me
User :   i had got into a relation with a married man
Doctor :   Thats good.
User :   but i know that not right
Doctor :  
this will help you in coming out of depression.
User :   but just happened
Doctor :  
I meant speaking with your friend that i told was good.
Doctor :  
Yes go ahead.
User :   now after a 1 and half years,he says that having sexs with me is sick
User :   and always he had forced himself
User :   dont know if he just did a timepass but i am worried after he said that i am hopeless in bed
User :   i had helped him a lot financially aso
Doctor :   I will leave it to you to decide if you need to continue with him.
User :   not i feel men just come to use
Doctor :  
because lack of arousal is a personal feeling
Doctor :  
What a guy thinks vary with others.
User :   u can advise me on that bcoz its effecting mentally and physically as well
Doctor :  
hence it is a subjective feeling.
User :   why dont i get aroused then
User :   i feel i need to stop having sexs with him.. and just be friends if he want.
User :   is my decision right
Doctor :   Yes that is your decision, I will explain the causes that is causing the nonarousal in you.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
1. the stress tension and worries including the depressive thoughts.
Doctor :  
2. Anaemia.
Doctor :  
3. The person you are with.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
All these factors combined may be the reasons.
Doctor :  
Have you followed?
User :   yes
Doctor :  
Now coming to management of the problem.
Doctor :  
1. Avoid stresses and tensions.
User :   how
Doctor :  
You can find means of relaxing like meditations, music, talking with your family and friends.
Doctor :  
If that is not helping you then you can take a counselling with clinical psychologist.
Doctor :  
Have you followed?
User :   basically i need to be engaged with sumthing until i get used to it
User :   yes
Doctor :   Exactly.
Doctor :  
The meeting with the psychologist is only if the things are not helping.
User :   ok.. i was like that but everthing got spoilt bcoz of my relation
Doctor :  
2. Check your hemoglobin levels.
User :   ya
Doctor :  
If its low you need iron supplements.
Doctor :  
Follow a well balanced diet.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
Add iron rich food in your diet.
User :   as u had mentioned earlier
Doctor :  
Those which i mentioned are good source.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
If you need few more you can search the web for more.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
Have you followed?
User :   yes doctor
User :   my mom is planning to get me married.. think that should change my thoughts as well.
User :   should i take a change in life
Doctor :  
Yes.
Doctor :  
taht will help, But get your anaemia treated too.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
3. The guy your are with - i will leave that to you.
User :   should i vist a doctor for that
Doctor :  
I will avoid comments on that.
User :   for anaemia treatment
Doctor :  
Good fore play is necessary for arousal.
User :   i dont feel his touch
User :   i was not like that before
Doctor :  
You can check your hemog;obin levels and you can visit a hematologist for the treatment and evaluation.
User :   i was checking with to vist a doctor for anaemia treatment
Doctor :  
Do you have any other query?
User :   no..
Doctor :  
these problems are as i said only temporary.
Doctor :  
So do not worry on these more.
User :   ok
Doctor :   Follow the measure i suggested and you can have a normal life.
User :   yes i will doctor. thank you very much
Doctor :  
Please fill the feed back form too before we close.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
Thanks for consulting HealthcareMagic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
User :   ok will do,
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