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Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
User :   dear doctor
Doctor :  
how can i help you?
User :   I think I have erection problem
Doctor :   please proceed with your health query?
Doctor :  
ok
User :   I have consulted sexologist and did the following tests
Doctor :  
could you tell the test done along with the values in them?
User :   cbc, urine re, blood sugar(fasting and post prendial) lipid profile, testostiran, proleetin, fsh and lh , usg abdmen and usg scrotum
User :   all are normal
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
can you describe your problem in detail?
User :   I used to get good erections few years back and now i think there is some problem
User :   my erections are not good enoguh to insert
Doctor :   please provide your age, location, occupation, height and current weight.
User :   I am not getting much sexual urge also
Doctor :   i will need to ask you few more questions. can i proceed?
User :   age 29, bangalore, s/w engineer, 5ft 6 inch, 78 kgs
User :   sure
Doctor :  
are you facing any problems in getting an erection?
Doctor :  
are you married?
User :   yes but sometimes I get erection,
User :   yes
User :   that is y more worried
Doctor :   ok

User :   but frequency of getting erections also not great
Doctor :  
first of all your BMI is increased, you come in the overweight side
Doctor :   your BMI is 28
Doctor :  
your ideal weight should be between 62-68 kgs, as per your height
User :   but people who are more heiver than me also enjoying sex
Doctor :  
it is just one factor affecting sexual life
User :   I am worried
Doctor :  
are you having any stresses in your life? either personal? or from office?
User :   Doctor said my case could be psychogenic
User :   no
Doctor :  
yes, it is known to be psychogenic too
User :   I need solution to this problem badly
User :   so what is the solution?
Doctor :  
once you feel the erection problem is there, it becomes more due to the psychological aspect attached to it
Doctor :   do you have problem in achieving an erection?
User :   so how to handle that
Doctor :  
are you able to get an erection when you feel sexually aroused?
User :   many times
Doctor :  
ok
User :   problem is I am not getting sexually aroused
Doctor :  
once you do get an erection, how long can you maintain it?
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
do you used to masturbate?
User :   yes
User :   is that the problem
Doctor :  
if yes, what was frequency before marriage and what is frequency now?
User :   before marriage almost everyday, sometimes 2 or 3 times in a day also
Doctor :  
and since when are you masturbating? at what age did you start masturbating?
Doctor :  
ok
User :   I married 3 months back
User :   I think
Doctor :  
if it was more than 14 times a week, it could be problematic
User :   i started at the age of 13
Doctor :  
erection problems in early marriage is usually psychogenic
User :   but my doctor said that is not a problem
Doctor :  
all your reports are fine so only the psychogenic cause can be thought about
User :   so how do I handle this
User :   y i am not getting the urge
Doctor :  
when you are in bed, are you conscious about how or whether you will be able to satisfy your wife?
User :   yes
Doctor :  
then this is what is majorly causing it
User :   she loves me a lot and cooperates well
Doctor :  
you will need few counselling sessions with a sexologist or a psychologist to help you get out of this feeling
User :   can u suggest me good sexologist or psychologist in bangalore
Doctor :   once the hesitation feeling gets inside, then it is difficult to be able to get a sexual arousal or a erection and even maintain it
Doctor :   i can suggest you someone , you can follow this link that i will give to search
User :   ok
Doctor :  
WWW.WWWW.WW Doctor :   these are the sexologists available
User :   should i consult ayurvedic or allowpathic docotor
Doctor :  
you can choose according to closeness to your area of residence
Doctor :  
nothing in any medicine division can cure what the barin has thought of
User :   I have consulted a sexologist
Doctor :  
its only by counselling this can happen
User :   he said my case is psychogenic
User :   but really don't know how to handle it
Doctor :  
so you will need sessions to overcome your hesitation and lack of confidence feel that has got inside your brain
Doctor :   you told me that you wife cooperates well

Doctor :  
does she feel satisfied?
User :   yes
Doctor :  
has she ever complained till now that she is not?
User :   till now I am not able to full insert inside
User :   she never complained
Doctor :  
ful insertion only serves the purpose of depositing sperms near the uterus opening
User :   but if it is not inserted she can't be happy
Doctor :  
most women get satisfied with stimulation of vaginal opening region
Doctor :  
so the length of penis or how high you can insert does not matter
User :   we consulted gynocologist, and her hymen also not borken
Doctor :  
hymen need not be broken to attain sexual pleasure
User :   gynocologist said only full insertion can break the hymen
Doctor :  
some women tend to have thick hymen and sometimes it need to be operated to make it open even though they enjoy normal sexual life
User :   to get a child hymen should broken right
Doctor :  
it depends on type of hymen
User :   my wife age is 27 yrs
Doctor :  
not every hymen is same, there are types of it
Doctor :  
so getting concieved is different issue
Doctor :  
does she get her periods regularly?
User :   so do u say hymen has nothing to do with getting pregnancy
User :   yes
Doctor :  
then there will be sufficient opening for sperms to get inside and get concieved
User :   so hymen should be broken to get pregnancy
Doctor :  
sperms are microscopic, we cannot see them, so any minor opening they will be able to travel inside to get into the uterus and meet the egg
Doctor :  
so if the menstrual blood can come out properly, even sperms can get inside
User :   she more concerned about getting pregnancy than sexual pleasure
Doctor :   first of all both of you together need to talk to a psychologist
Doctor :  
both are having stress on your heads
User :   yes
Doctor :  
you are having due to erection and not able to have proper sex
User :   I am deeply depressed
Doctor :  
and she is having stress to get pregnant
User :   not able to concentrate on my work at office also
Doctor :  
it will cause problems to get worse leading to nothing but sourness in your relationship
Doctor :  
what i really suggest is
Doctor :  
that both should go for couple therapy
User :   recently my manger complained that my performance is bad
Doctor :  
you are recently married, these problems are known to occur
Doctor :  
but yours is going too far
Doctor :  
before things go wrong leading you to lose job and your wife, it is better that both of you take this couple therapy and counselling
User :   because of this I have pressure at home and office
Doctor :  
such that you come out of your stresses and enjoy sexual life'
Doctor :  
and she too needs to understand that having a baby is not a priority, it is god given gift that can happen anytime
Doctor :  
its not what she wants
User :   I am always worried about this, not able to think anything apart from this
Doctor :  
but she should enjoy and keep you in the same enjoyment level
User :   but she is not putting any pressure on me
User :   only solution is get good erection
Doctor :  
in these modern days, pregnancy after marriage can take upto 2-3 years also to get a good outcome even tough you dont use any contraception
User :   that will solve all my problems
User :   suggest me where can I get good counselling
Doctor :  
you will get good erections if your mind is relaxed and empty when you get close to her
User :   in bangalore
Doctor :   until that happens you will not be able to get good erections
User :   i know, but I am not able to be relaxed at bed
Doctor :  
which are do you reside ?

Doctor :  
untill you relax and your mind is relaxed, this is not going to happen this you should understand
User :   anywhere
User :   ok
User :   can meditation help
Doctor :  
having a normal pleasureable sexual life is a complex process
Doctor :  
envolving many things
User :   but many people enjoying
Doctor :  
you can meet
User :   sure
User :   can u provide her contact number
Doctor :  
people who have their minds relaxed when approaching wife they are able to enjoy
User :   she is sexologist or psychologist
Doctor :  
i dont have her personal number
Doctor :  
psychologist
User :   ok
User :   thank u
Doctor :  
Is there any thing else I can help you with?
User :   but I searched in google, it shows is dermotologist
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done.
Doctor :   you can personally contact
Doctor :  
and find out her credentials
Doctor :   you will find hundreds of doctors listed in GOogle
User :   how
User :   ok
User :   I'll do that
User :   if i chat again, should I explain every thing again
Doctor :   no
Doctor :  
not required
User :   sir
Doctor :  
we will have your chat details with us
Doctor :  
so you need not explain everything again
Doctor :  
Is there any thing else I can help you with?
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