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Query about hardening of the penis - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Very Good Posted in: Penis Problems
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Practicing since : 2004
Answered : 37 Questions
User :   Hi doctor, please advice me, my penis is not getting hard when im with my girl friend,
Doctor :   Hi
User :   hello doctor,
Doctor :   may i know your age ?
User :   im 24 doctor,
Doctor :   and how long have you been sexually active ?
Doctor :   can you explain more about your problem ?
User :   sure doctor
User :   my penis is not getting hard when im with my girl friend
Doctor :   are you able to have penetration?
User :   but when im alone it gets hard
Doctor :   have u had this issue with any other partners before ?
User :   how do i penetrate when it is not getting hard, pls advise
User :   no no i trying this only with my girlfrnd, not with any
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   so this is your first relationship ?
User :   i tried some 4 -5 times still i couldnt do
User :   yes doctor
Doctor :   and you have not been sexually active before ?
User :   no i hav not done sex before with any one
Doctor :   what you have is performance anziety
Doctor :   are u able to masturbate ?
User :   yes, perfectly;)
Doctor :   and do u have strong erections when you masturbate ?
User :   but only when im with her im not able to
User :   yes, doctor
Doctor :   In this case, this is partner specific problem or due to performance anxiety
User :   how to overcome this
User :   doctor u there?
Doctor :   what i would advice you is to get comfortable with your current partner and become so well tuned with each other that there is no room for any sort of anxiety
Doctor :   please wait while i type in my response
User :   ok sorry
User :   i have one more question
Doctor :   performance anxiety is more common in new couples who have recently been sexually active
User :   ok, so is this not a serious problem?
Doctor :   the lack of experience and the high expectations with which you enter into the relationship, causes you to feel inadequate and due to unreasonable pressure you end up nor performing well
Doctor :   this is not a serious issue at all
Doctor :   over time, you will be able to have good sex
User :   ok thnx doctor, i hav one more question
User :   i mean i have one more problem
Doctor :   try to use some lubrication while penetrating for the initial few times
User :   ok
Doctor :   lack of proper lubrication and lack of full excitement in the female can cause you to lose your erection within a few minutes and also cause you to have premature ejaculation in some cases
User :   doctor only my right testicle is active, problem with other one
User :   wil it be a problem?
Doctor :   What do u mean by a single active testes ?
Doctor :   how do u know which testicle is active and which is not ?
Doctor :   Are u there ?
User :   yes im here
User :   im trying how to explain,
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   sorry for interrupting
User :   no problem doctor, thnx for your patience
User :   i hurt my left testicle 4 yrs ago, now i hav only right side testicle
User :   but i couldnt say this to anyone,
Doctor :   thats fine
Doctor :   you mean to say that the left testes has been removed ?
User :   i dint even consult doctor for that,
User :   no i got pain in my left testicle and later it got swelling
Doctor :   so you feel that the left testes has reduced in size ?
User :   yes it is very very small now
Doctor :   ok
User :   means now it is become like a ground nut, i dont think it its working anymore
Doctor :   I would advice you to see a urologist to know the status of the testicle , in case its not late to treat the condition and it may be reversible
Doctor :   you mean to say the size is less than 1 cm diameter ?
Doctor :   in any case presence of a single testes will not matter in your sexual performance
Doctor :   as the other testes will take over
Doctor :   but it is in your best interest to get yourself examined and if needed get treated as well to prevent future complicaitons
Doctor :   i hope you have understood my advice
Doctor :   take care and bye for now
User :   doctor u there?
Doctor :   Are u there ?
User :   sorry package got expired, i have 15 more mins now
Doctor :   thats fine
Doctor :   have u read the last sentances that i typed ?
User :   doctor i feel shy to go to any doctor
Doctor :   there is nothing to be shy about
User :   to talking abt this to any in the family
Doctor :   do u think, not talking or getting treated, will help you when you end up ahving complicaitons later on ?
Doctor :   In future, you should not repent for your actions now
User :   yes i understand, but stilll is right side testicle enough to make babies
User :   wil there be any complication if it is not get treated?
Doctor :   If u had the presence of mind , when u had the injuery of the testes, and adequate treatment had been given your left testes would have been fine , in case it was a minor hematoma or treatable condition
User :   bcoz since 4yrs i dint get any problem
Doctor :   if left untreated, it may become carcimomatous as cancers can arise in inactive tissues
User :   i was small at that time,
Doctor :   I do understand that
Doctor :   peer pressure and shyness can cause severe lack of confidence in youth
User :   now can i make babies with one testicle?
Doctor :   you need to be confident about yourself and your body
Doctor :   yes sure
User :   oh thank god!
Doctor :   if the right testicle is normal, there will no no issues you to concieve in the future
User :   ok but why my penis not getting hard when im with my partner?
Doctor :   every other person in the planet has a body similar to you, and there is no need to be shy about health issues
Doctor :   as i had explained earlier that is due to lack of confidence and performance anxiety
User :   ok doctor, i wil try to consult a nearby doctor
Doctor :   you get pressureised before the act, and due to that you tend to feel that you may not perform well
User :   hmmm.. correct
Doctor :   and due to that, you end up not performing and you may lose erection soon
User :   and i get less sperms out when i errect?
Doctor :   no
User :   is this because i hav only one testicle?
Doctor :   no
User :   how much should be the sperm volume when errected/
Doctor :   this is not due to having a single testes
User :   ok
Doctor :   usually when you ejaculate you produce about 3 ml of semen
User :   ok
Doctor :   and regular masturbation and emission of semen can cause reduced semen emission over time
User :   are you on yahoo messenger! so that i can add u, if i get any doubt i can ask u :)
Doctor :   No i am not on yahoo messenger
Doctor :   Sorry about that
User :   here its too expensive for me
User :   ok no problem
Doctor :   for any doubts , you can email
User :   ok thanx doctor
Doctor :   u r welcome
User :   i got little relief now, thnx
Doctor :   Do u have any other query ?
User :   i want to know how to make penis hard when am with my partner,
Doctor :   just relax and ask her to stimulate you
Doctor :   ask her to masturbate you
Doctor :   apply some K Y jelly OR any water based lubricants
User :   ok, i tried this still i couldnt
User :   oh ok ok i wil try
Doctor :   i guess you are very anxious
Doctor :   sex is not a great science
Doctor :   you will learn with time and get more experienced
Doctor :   most good lovers are bad during their first sexual encounter
User :   i was worried become even after trying 4-5 tiimes i couldnt do so...
Doctor :   and they learn with experience
Doctor :   thats normal, and u need not worry
Doctor :   when u are relaxed and u are not concerned with performing
Doctor :   but u should just aim to please your partner , then u will perform well too
Doctor :   when u consider sex as a race, you will not be satisfied
Doctor :   you can consult a sexologist for additional details
Doctor :   i hope i have answered your queries
Doctor :   take care and bye for now
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